Singles: Marriage with sex, or single life with celibacy?

“I don’t wanna marry Agnes, Barney. It ain’t the marryin’ part, it’s the Agnes part!”
–Inspector Lugar, Barney Miller
(For the full effect, when you read this quote, you should pronounce Agnes as Ag-a-ness: “I don’t wanna marry Ag-a-ness, Baaney. It ain’t the marryin’ pat, it’s the Ag-a-ness pot!”)

Very good! Made me laugh.

I think there’s a flaw in this poll. It assumes that people who are single are not interested in marriage, or that the idea of enforced monogamy is off-putting.

This.

I don’t know which option to pick on the poll. Neither of them work for me. I would do exactly what I’m doing in real life, and remain single and celibate until/unless I find the man I want to marry. “Book the chapel! I can’t imagine never getting laid again” is out because I’m not in any rush to get married, and if I do decide I want to it will be for reasons besides sex. On the other hand, “Marriage? Aw, hell no! I’ll fly solo, in life and in bed” doesn’t come close to reflecting my attitude - I’d very much like to marry one day, when/if I’m ready and have found the right guy.

Is there an option to tell the RCC to mind it’s own business? I’ll marry, date, love, have sex with, who I want and when I want. I’m smart enough and moral enough to do decide what’s best for myself. I really don’t understand this blind devotion bronze age religion, forced morality and dogma.

The hypothetical wasn’t about the RCC, although it seems to have arisen out of a discussion about it among other things. Otherwise, I’d guess you have the option to be a member of the Church or not, but if you want to be in the club, then as far as the Church is concerned it is their business, and you aren’t smart and moral enough, and nor is anyone else who thinks they can ignore the Church’s teaching and make up their own mind.

Incidentally, I don’t think you could call the RCC “bronze age religion”; they take the view AIUI (and IANALF) that the Church has the ability and the authority to make pronouncements on its own account, not merely reiterate what’s in the Bible. So some of it’s mediaeval, at least, and some of it more modern than that.

Thanks Malacandra,

Being from the South, of course I grew up evangelical Southern Baptist. Ugh. I left all religion last year. Doing great. Don’t miss it.

Never had much experience in any type of Catholic Church. Of Course I was aware of their powerful postion globally.