Skinny girls and attractiveness

[Helena330]

@Troppus

Nice example. How about we just refrain from commenting on aspects of other’s appearance in favor of either kindness or silence? Because nastiness couched in envy is still nastiness. We just had a trainwreck about a bumbling waiter’s use of fat girls to describe his guests. No one had any trouble deciding that was a rude and careless move.

Did you read the part of my post you snipped?? I certainly didn’t condone nastiness towards anyone. Lighten up, geesh. I’m on your side.

[chiroptera]

@Troppus

No, no, it’s a whoosh.

I doubt anyone has conducted a study to determine if thin kids are teased as often, so no cite for you. You can poke around here to find anecdotes from thin to average folks about unwelcome and unkind comments from overweight people. Or you could compare the terms {boney, scrawny, anorexic (as a perjorative)} to {pudgy, obese, fat girls}. I feel the sets of terms are equally hurtful and offensive, the difference being that no one would be punished for bullying the skinny kid. What do you think?

I missed the edit window and get that it’s a whoosh.

I’m thin and always have been, and I do get that some comments can be seen as hostile - “I hate people like you who can eat anything without gaining weight!” “Here, have some of this, you need some meat on your bones!” Always said with a big smile. :rolleyes:

But while it annoys me at times, I have decided to choose not to be bothered by it. Basically I don’t care.

Back when I was in school all those years ago ('60s-'70s), it was very rare for kids to be overweight. I only remember one, and don’t recall her being teased - in fact she was quite popular, although of course that’s my perspective, not hers.

I do agree of course that it’s not OK to tease someone about their physical appearance. But kids will do that…and someone, even a kid, with a healthy sense of self-worth ought to be able to blow it off and recognise it for what it is.

[Aji_de_Gallina]

Skinny girls look better with their clothes on (except the really flat-chested). Once you get to underwear or bikini you need more meat.
Don’t like small boobs.
I’d rather she had 5 extra kilos than five less

[Troppus]

@chiroptera

I missed the edit window and get that it’s a whoosh.

I’m thin and always have been, and I do get that some comments can be seen as hostile - “I hate people like you who can eat anything without gaining weight!” “Here, have some of this, you need some meat on your bones!” Always said with a big smile. :rolleyes:

But while it annoys me at times, I have decided to choose not to be bothered by it. Basically I don’t care.

Back when I was in school all those years ago ('60s-'70s), it was very rare for kids to be overweight. I only remember one, and don’t recall her being teased - in fact she was quite popular, although of course that’s my perspective, not hers.

I do agree of course that it’s not OK to tease someone about their physical appearance. But kids will do that…and someone, even a kid, with a healthy sense of self-worth ought to be able to blow it off and recognise it for what it is.

Skinny girls have been teased for being flat chested and slim hipped since fashion revealed figures. Somewhere around the 50’s, when snug sweaters were in vogue.

In theory I agree with you completely. But kids rarely have a well developed sense of self worth, so bullying is bullying, whether it’s anti fat or anti skinny. I’m not expecting to get anywhere with my complaint, so I’ll just state clearly how things have worked for me.

I’ve never made friends with any woman or man who has made insulting comments about my size or eating habits, because I figure they will say crappy things about others, too. Because it’s incredibly impolite to speculate on how or why someone arrived at a healthy shape. Because they wouldn’t weather similar criticism gracefully.

[River_Hippie]

My tastes have changed. I used to be attracted to Amazon types, tall, athletic, etc.
Now I’ve found my tastes running more to petite, thin, glamour-puss types. Can’t explain.