See, my friend has a theory. She’s not heavy but she’s does not resemble Alley Mc. She has this theory that men who are attracted to REALLY skinny women are in the closet about their sexuality.
This is not a mythical friend but I was wondering if I could get a little input for a better base. 
I’m attracted to skinny women (heck, I’m attracted to ANY woman) and I am certain that I don’t have any problems with repressed sexuality.
I’ve always heard that “Closer the bone, the sweeter the meat.”
Sounds like someones “friend” makes up lame excuses to try to make her feel better that guys dont chance her like skinnier women.
Men like all kinds of women (and some like men too.)
Some like women who are skinny with no boobs and no hips. Not sure if that signifies any repression.
Some men like women who are thin but have huge breasts and no hips, some like them with huge breasts with some hip. Some like them with small boobs and normal hips…whatever
Some men like women who are just round, not large but round and full of curves.
Some men like large women who are “rubinesque” in size and some men like extremelly large women.
So, if a man who likes the extremelly large woman are some how more in tuned to their heterosexuality, I think the guy who likes skinny woman isn’t going to agree. The guy just likes skinny woman.
My sis-in-law is a VERY thin woman, no breasts but has hips. My brother is not repressing any homosexual ideals, he just loves his wife and happens to be that she is very skinny.
BTW, if a guy, in your friend’s mind, happens to like very skinny women, could that sexuality that’s being repressed be homosexual (as I assumed in my last post) or is that for little girls?
Hmmm, I agree, sounds like your friend is just insecure and trying to make excuses for the guys that don’t find her attractive for whatever reason.
Tell her that we can’t be attractive to all people all the time. People have different ideas of what makes a person attractive.
I’m attracted to women with short hair, or who have that “boyish” look, yet I’ve never felt any urge to play for the other team. My friends tease me about it, but I think that it’s because most women will look sexy with long, flowing hair, big breasts, and lots of make-up. However, if a woman can look good without those things, then she must have true beauty. But then, I’ve always been a sucker for the woman with “the interesting face”. Glasses turn me on.
Oh, definitely. Men who are attracted to women of a certain type are definitely closet homo fag perverts. :rolleyes:
You guys are giving me the giggles.
I’m not accusing any one of anything…just trying to get a better feel for the way men think.
I’m one of the rounded all overs by the way, I wear glasses (never was able to keep contacts in) and my hair gets cut to “boy” length every 5 years or so.
I’m a very lucky woman, in that my husband loves all women, regardless of the shape or size, with the exception of those who look/are ill because of mistreating themselves.
My personal preference for women is that they be smaller than me and feminine. So, when I look in the mirror I don’t always see myself as attractive.
Will you not stop and talk to a woman because she doesn’t meet your preferences? If so, what about a woman causes you to engage in conversation?
I’ll stop and talk to them if they seem nice enough obviously. Its just I cant change my entire setup of characteristics that I like in women to magicly shift when I meet the next girl. That indecisive quality can put a lot of strain on a relationship when one finally does come along. but I enjoy the company of all nice women, beautiful or boyish or what have you. I’m just not going to fall head over heels for them.
Uh-oh. Am I gonna have to tell my skinny-ass best friend that her fiance is a closet case??
Is that like Peter Paul Rubins?
Not quite sure how to respond to this, other than to give two seemingly contradictory pieces of information:
Yes, guys do respond to visual stimuli possibly more than women do. However, as a guy, I can see no conflict in ogling a scantily-clad woman on the beach, mentally undressing her with my eyes (and loads of other “sexist/un-PC” stuff), and then having utter respect and admiration for her when I discover she’s a rocket scientist or something. I make no apologies for being one of the guys taking a second peek at a woman’s bum as she passes by.
All of the above goes out the window when two people just “click”. Guys are no different to women in this regard. If a woman catches my imagination, I don’t care if she’s twenty or fifty, anorexic or obese, beautiful, or butt-ugly. I have my preconceived ideas about female beauty, but they can go out the window very quickly indeed, depending on the woman involved. Brains will always be sexy.
I find the mental and physical connection to be very tightly linked. I can look at a Playboy centrefold model and feel virtually nothing towards her, or I can find beautiful a person considered plain by many because I like her personality. If you push me for a short answer, I’d say it’s all in the eyes.
Well, hell, I’ll give my 2 cents.
I’m a male. I like skinny women. In fact, I really prefer tall skinny brunettes, for the sake of completeness. My family has teased me about all the girls I date looking the same.
But. I’m not gay. I’m not (very) repressed. It’s just a preference. I certainly respond to visual stimuli, and that’s what does it for me.
So no, just because a man prefers skinny women, it doesn’t mean he’s a repressed homosexual.
I am the boy who very much likes
large women, I don’t know why, I just do.
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I like big butts and I cannot lie.
Rae- I see what you’re saying, and I have noticed the same thing. Maybe your friend is feeling insecure about herself, but I’m pretty skinny and have noticed the same thing. However, the spin I put on it was this: men attracted to overly-thin women are secretly pedophiles! No, no, just kidding! However, many men DO seem to be attracted to women who have the same body-type as girls between the ages of maybe 12 to 15 years of age- very long legs, no hips, very little body fat. My boyfriend, always trying to convince men are not the pigs I sometimes feel sure they must be, claims this body-type is not really favored my most men, that most men (him included) prefer a curvier woman. He claims, perhaps not without reason, that it the media representation of overly-thin women as being attractive that is causing some women to take offense, but in reality, most men do not actually find the “Ally McBeal”-type all that alluring.
Oh yeah !
Long flowing hair ? no, medium.
Big breasts ? no, medium.
Lots of make-up ? no, I wear make-up approx. three or four times a year.
Interesting face ? hoo boy, don’t you know it.
Glasses ? check.
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j/k, I’m happily married, but believe me if I wasn’t, I’d be climbing the bridge every weekend, hoping to spot you 
My best friend is skinny. I’m talking like five foot eight and wears a size 4. Actually she has a hard time getting dates, even though she is very attractive. Seems that most men don’t prefer skinny women, they would rather have someone with meat on the bone, according to what the guys tell her. It definitely has to be a preference cause she’s got a good personality and I have yet to figure out why she has a hard time finding a date. She’s not standoffish or a snob, she doesn’t turn guys away (based on looks) she goes more for the personality. It’s just that she’s skinny.
While not all generalizations are true, I have noticed that men who tend to be attracted exclusively to the Built Like A 10 year old Boy type (BLABs) are the same ones who are 45, single and uninvolved.
My husband and I know two guys like this and they are like book ends. They are still looking for a girl like the first girl that broke their heart when they were about 15 or so. The only trouble is that now 30 years have passed and they are still in a junior high mindset. By refusing to consider a women who may be older or may be bigger and setting their sights on something unattainable, they are protecting themselves from further injury.
Now before you get out the flamethrower, Please note that I said this is sometimes the case. And please let’s not go here again.
Just the size/weight isn’t all I look for when I’m checking out a girl, actually I always look at her face. True it’s not always the first place I look, but she has to have a nice face, something I could enjoy looking at the next morning if it goes that far.
As far as the type of chick I go after, it’s like I get in the mood for the “cute type” for a couple months, then I start finding myself going for a different “flavor”. My taste changes on what “look” I find attractive.
But as far as weight, they can’t be heavy, not even slightly over weight. I’m just not attracted to big girls. Now the little skinny chicks, have to have some meat in the right places, I don’t ask for much but you have to have a little bit of a chest to catch my eye.
But one thing is for sure I’ve always been attracted to girls that are shorter than myself, me being almost six foot, doesn’t narrow it down alot but short girls, like five foot two inches, that height is perfect.
Sooo…
I can tell my redneck, less than fully liberated roomate that his preference for skinny chiques is latent homosexuality? Ooo, I don’t care if it’s not true, this is too good not to use.
And to be serious about it, I do think men have definite ideals. I also think that if there’s a spark, those ideals don’t mean jack. I prefer the curvy, meat on the bones, long hair type (which may show something of my own prejudices). Although, I had a long, wonderful relationship with a woman who described herself as a hockey stick with hair, and no one argued the point with her.
Cuz the visual clues are only the first item to check. I was interested in a woman at one point who fit most of my physical cues. Went on a few dates, but her personality, level of conversation, etc. precluded anything further. In other words, eye candy is nice, and any hetro male that says otherwise is probably on a short leash, but it takes much more than that to make it work.