So, My mother is elderly and has early dementia, dialysis, and congestive heart failure. She has been isolated for years by her newly married husband (two days before our conservatorship hearing, NO LIE). She owned a prime piece of property in a small country town, three stories with several business ran in it and retail value of one million dollars, he has SOLD this three generation property for half of that just to get the money. She is getting sicker ad sicker. He cuts off our phone calls, tells us to leave during visits, is verbally abusive to us and mentally abusive towards her. He forgets her meds, wont let her eat what she wants, while he pigs out and gets fatter and fatter, she is down to 100lbs. This is rambling, out of order, and wont make much sense but it is late and I couldn’t sleep because of all this BS. I have called adult protective services, they wont do anything unless another party calls just my concerns arent enough, they went for a visitand because she has a nice home and says she feels safe, they never talked to her alone, they closed the case. He has don so much to our family but the main thing that I learned last night is that the Sale closed today and now he wants to take my sickly mother to Belize because we can’t touch him there (his words) he is going to take allher money and run~ uggghh
My sister wont help me she just complains but wont call APS wont help me pay to file suit, wont file suit because it is to stressful for her she has users. Granted I have had three back surgeries in 2.5 years, on LTD and SSDI, stopped doing foster care, moved my family to a different state to be closer and try to help. Never asked her (mom) for anything while my sister asks constatly for her to pay for her schooling, help with her horses among other things. My sister is 50 years old no husband and no kids… I am so fustrated and so pissed our family legacy is gone we can’t get that back and it is because Ihad no back up no one to help stop him. Now my mother is getting sicker and sicker an I just know it is because of his diet and him killing her off. A lot more to the story but just needed to vent and see if anyone out there could tellme am I in the rigt? Should I be pissed at her, she should stand up ad help out, stop being so damn selfish and suck it up… Am I wrong? Is it to much for her? Should I lay off? We just lost any inheritance that we might have gotten, my step father has alienated all of my mothers friends and family, he keep all financials a secret from us, he has changed her will, has a joint checking account with a man hat is known to take advantage of the elderly (again, small town_, he wont allow us any alone time with our mother and has told her that we are after her money, don’t lover her, we are vindictive, just all kinds of bad things constantly in her ear. He has torn our family apart and my mother has no memory to speak of forgets everything, phone call, day of th week, what year it is, etc… She has lost out on her grand children, great grand children, is not ALLOWED to visit and we are not ALLOWED to visit her because it upsets her HEART condition. UGGGH I am so fustrated, pissed off, hurt, and lost. I know that tomorrow this will make no sens but typing a bit of it out helped a bit. LOL I just want to hang him up by his toenails and make him openn up and tell us his plans what he is doing… Oh ad by he way the original conservatorship was his idea he called us in to start the whole thing because she was into sweepstakes real bad and now he has screwed us ad our mother thinks we hate her.