There is this woman I know and I hadn’t seen her in a while, but I ran into her at the video store and we talked for a while and I asked her out and got her number then promptly lost the card it was written on. Would it be out of line to show up at her place of work (she works at a bookstore and she told she works every Wednesday evening) and just apologize and ask for her number again.
Nah, it’s not out of line. These things happen. Just tell her what happened, and I’m sure she’ll understand. At any rate, it’s better than never getting in touch with her and making her wonder why you didn’t call.
I think it’s perfectly fine. Once you get her number again, though, put it in your cell phone or address book or something a little more permanent.
And call her within a couple days. Losing the number can be forgiven. Losing the number, asking for it again and then waiting a long time to call will make her think you’re just jerking her around.
It’s ok as long as you do it only once, and are prepared to accept the possibility of rejection. If she gives you the number again and y’all get something going, great. If she declines, she’s just not into you, and it’s time to move on.
Bring her something sweet but funny and not too serious when you stop by. Like a small childrens toy that you think might look like a good compliment for her stapler.
It’s not really love if you’re not willing to possibly get a restraining order. Try harder!
Not out of line at all. Women who’d be really uncomfortable with you stopping by their places of work aren’t in the habit of letting you know when they’ll be there. Plus a bookstore isn’t an office– there’ll be other people there. Just don’t bother her if she’s with a customer or her manager (obviously).
Be smooth about it. Go in and talk about a great book you’ve just read, or perhaps ask her that you’re trying to find another one. After this small talk, subtly bring up the lost number thing.
She knows there is no way I casually stop by the store. It would be clear I was there to see her.
That’s OK. You already asked for her number. It’s not a secret that you have some interest. You don’t have to pretend you’re there for a book, or casually slip it into the conversation that you lost her number. Be direct. She KNOWS you know where she works and she TOLD you that she’s there on Wednesdays. Don’t start acting like this is a covert operation.
“Hey, I misplaced the card with your number, can I have it again?” That’s all you have to say. You could even go as far as asking her out in person. “I misplaced your number, and I wanted to know if you’d like to get dinner on Friday.” Then get her number again.
I wouldn’t even mention that you lost her number. Why not just ask her out, in person, at the store?
I agree, but don’t ask her in the store. Ask her to meet you outside when it’s convenient for her to take a break for a minute. If she says yes when you ask her out, then mention that you lost her number. Otherwise, be gracious and get the hell out of there.
My tactic would be to be humble about it.
Make sure she knows in a light hearted, humorous, way that you’re an idiot for losing it in the first place.
With any luck she’ll have a good chuckle about it and be more than happy to give you her number again.
Also be discrete.
Go for it. If she’s at all interested, she will appreciate the extra effort…and the fact that you are able to admit you messed up and lost her number won’t hurt either.
I had to stalk **Rhiannon8404 **when we were in college…I waited in the hallway outside her Comm. Studies final. It worked well 
Also discreet.
As long as she told you where she works, she will probably be flattered that you were interested enough to stop by.
Huh? This seems weird. How is that better than asking her in the store?
I am not going to do that. There is else nothing by the store except a drug store. I am not going to stand in a drug store or a parking lot or hang out in her store, which would be really weird.
The point is, why approach her to ask for her number when you could just as easily approach her and ask her out? Why the extra step?
She’s working. You’re asking her something personal. At least give her the chance to be professional about it and do it outside of the store. Are you just going to interrupt her while she’s working and put her on the spot? What if she finds that embarrassing or uncomfortable? Letting her know that you want a minute of her time in private is much cooler than putting her in a potentially awkward situation in her workplace.