My husband has had something going on with one if his ears for the last couple of weeks. It’s stopped up, he can’t hear out of it, but it doesn’t hurt. His GP has given him two different antibiotics, neither of which has helped. He has an appointment with an ENT doc tomorrow. He has always been a bit of a baby when he’s not feeling well. I have asked him several times a day if he’s any better, if there’s anything I can do for him, to the point that he’s snapped at me for it a couple of times.
My mom, who is 82 and lives 500 miles away, has had shingles for several weeks. I’ve been calling her every couple of days to see how she’s doing. I talked to her for about 1/2 hour last night (she’s much, much better)- typical talk with my mom. How is she, how are my sisters, when is my brother coming to visit, etc.
I get off the phone, Husband: How's you Mom? Me: Fine. She's a lot better. H: Everybody else OK? Me: Yeah. (problem sister) is doing well, she's starting a new job next week. H: Did you tell her about my ear? Me: Um, no. I called her mainly to ask about her shingles. H: But you talked about other stuff too, didn't you? Me: Yes, but your ear didn't come up. H: (hostile silence) Me: Oh, come on, you're not mad because I didn't tell Mom about your ear! H: It just makes me think you don't care. You talked to her for a half hour and didn't even mention it. It's thoughtless. Me: (stunned) He stayed pissy with me for the rest of the night, and is STILL annoyed with me this morning. Let me add that me mom is not a doctor nor does she have a miracle cure for stopped up ears. I think my husband is being a jackass, and I told him so. He thinks I owe him an apology for being "thoughtless". Do I really owe him an apology for this crap?