mrblue92, this has been bothering me for over a week. I know that I should have spoken up at the time, but I had some weird delusion that trying to diffuse the situation with humor was the way to go. I often have these silly notions, and then I am surprised when instead of helping, I make things worse.
It appears to me that this started in your birthday thread, and when DRY declined to participate in a verbal slinging match with you, you made the above post.
Apparently, both of you like to flirt with Medea’s Child, and she enjoys reciprocating. I have not followed your posts the way I follow DRY’s, because he is my friend so I tend to keep up on what he has posted. But if he were “hounding” you around the board out of some “infantile
desperation or jealous protective instinct”, I feel sure that he would have had to have BEEN in the threads in question. Therefore, I feel sure that I would have noticed. And if anything, in the threads that I have read, very often you post after he and Medea’s Child have been bantering back and forth already. Not that there is anything wrong with THAT, but it is clear to me that IF anyone were hounding ANYONE, it was not DRY who was doing it. And I don’t think that either one of you exhibit “infantile desperation.”
And “overkill” describes someone who refuses to let something die, even when the other person has opted out of the situation. Again, IMO, you were the one doing this in your birthday thread, not DRY.
I’m not trying to be nasty here, but I feel that the post I quoted above was out of line, and that I was remiss in not saying so immediately.
I apologize for not responding sooner, Scotti, as I was on vacation. I also apologize to everybody else involved for responding at all (especially DRY) as I hoped this was over.
To clarify that previous post (clearly made under frustration, I might add):
A: “hound me at every turn” referred to this thread and the birthday thread alone. I admit that was a bit hyperbolic. I also admit that I follow Medea’s Child’s threads when I can and have posted after both her and DRY on a few occasions. But I never crossed threads to attack him, and I do not feel I picked this fight or attempted to perpetuate it after the first round. You may feel differently–you are free to hold your opinion.
B: “overkill” can also mean using force out of all proportion to what is needed. Using a tank to hunt rabbits would be overkill. Using a semi to haul a single box of toothpicks would be overkill. This is the context in which I used the word. I believe it was appropriate, but perhaps I am wrong.
C: “infantile desperation or jealous protective instinct” Well… pointless to go into that now. Let sleeping dogs lie.
Medea’s Child has wisely decided not to take sides on this. I feel I have already attempted to apologize and tried to make amends. DRY has essentially said he’s sorry I can’t take a joke–in that he’s wrong, but there’s no point in arguing. I frankly don’t care what he thinks of me. (No offense… there are only a few individuals who I care what they think of me.)
I was going to suggest that you re-read this thread, but I would rather you didn’t and forget about it instead. This is not something I feel is worth your time. Or mine. Or DRY’s. And definitely not Kathryn’s.