I didn’t beat my daughter when she woke me up after three hours of sleep because she couldn’t get her paper printed that she procrastinated on. I’m old, she is supposed to be teaching me about technology.
I haven’t left the house or interacted with any people today. Yesterday I picked up a neighbor’s recycle bin and put all the recycleables back in it when I noticed it had fallen over and there was trash all in her ditch.
I was on the subway when a blind guy asked if anyone was getting off at the next stop. He needed a little help navigating the platform and getting to his destination. No one was getting off. One elderly lady said that she could get off and help the man. She could just catch the next train. The blind man didn’t want to be a bother so he said he’d just find someone on the platform to help him. The woman insisted. He continued to decline. I thought of volunteering but I would be in the exact same position as the elderly lady and I assumed that he would refuse my help too. Other people on the train were visibly struggling with the same conundrum. Everyone wanted to help but also to respect his autonomy. One young man on the train rescued us all. He shrugged his shoulders and piped up with a calculated white lie: “I’m getting off at the next stop.” Everyone else smiled and nodded at him. He smiled back. The blind man gratefully accepted his help. I’m sure that young man had to get right back on the train when he was done but he certainly did his good deed for the day.
Not to rain on your parade but a simple act of kindness would have been just giving the dude your four frigging quarters. If making change for a dollar makes you feel like a better person, you’re setting a pretty low bar for yourself.
eta: I once went down the street adding a little money to each of the meters. It could have been an act of kindness but really I was just fucking with the meter maid a half block behind me.
Some things are neither kind, nor unkind. Some things are just general or routine. If she gave away her four quarters in exchange for nothing, that’s “simple kindness”. If she refused to make change, even though she had the quarters in her pocket, that would be “unkind” or simple cruelty. The OP had quarters and someone needed a dollar. I’ve got to agree with CK on this one. It isn’t an act of kindness, it is the typical act of a human being. The fact that a person feels the need to brag about making change for a stranger as if it is to be commended, or worse yet, explains how this was her attempt at “being a better person”–presumably better than she normally is… well that’s just… peculiar.
Full disclosure, though, I was an asshole all day.
I read to the English as a second language kids at school today. Also I got a cupcake I couldn’t eat, so I gave it to the office receptionist. She hugged me, a bit of ‘get outta my personal space’ ran through my head. But I accepted gracefully. That’s personal growth in my book:)
Happy V-day, everyone!!