This thread is somewhat inspired by MsChilePepper’s post in the ‘experiences running into an ex’ thread. Let’s say you broke up with someone a while back, and then you randomly run into your ex, arm in arm with a new partner. Who looks EXACTLY LIKE YOU! Or maybe COMPLETELY DIFFERENT TO YOU! (Different race, different build, completely different style of dress, or even different gender.) Which one of these situations do you find more surprising, or creepier?
I’m not really sure what my own answer would be - option 1 suggests this person has ‘a type’, option 2 suggests either a) that they are purposely trying to forget me/finding it too hard to look at someone who reminds them of me or b) nothing at all.
I recently met my long ago ex’s new girlfriend. We could easily be twins. Everything from looks to mannerisms are the same. All of our mutual friends have made comments on it. I think it is a little creepy. I would much rather he was with someone completely different. I am not sure why. Maybe because it feels like he must still be a little hung up on me, even subconsciously. Or perhaps awesome people just tend to be petite with brown hair and green eyes. Who knows.
For the most part, I don’t think about this kind of thing. Well, okay, I’ll admit to doing “hmm, am I better looking? Think so.” But with my most recent ex, I have been doing some comparisons, though not on looks. Since our breakup, she has been involved with a string of guys who are worlds different than me in values, goals, and aspirations. This weirds me out because it makes me seriously question how she could have wanted both the kind of relationship she had with me and the kind she’s having now.
Dating someone like me would be much more explicable and less bothersome. Well, unless the person was so similar that mutual friends confused us. I didn’t even bother me when one of my exes rapidly found herself dating someone who had the same first name i did
Interesting concept considering most of the women I have dated/married/whatever have some common themes, mostly dark eyes and dark hair. Other than that they are all over the spectrum.
There was a guy who had a huge crush on me since we were kids; I’ve been congratulated on our marriage more than once. I confirmed through some mutual friends that his wife did look like me. And, having now met her, I can confirm that we can’t be mistaken for each other if we’re both in the room, but otherwise yes, and that they are completely devoted to eaach other. I joked with them that I’m glad I didn’t distract him too badly from finding her.
