Some clarification

Stop explaining, stop excusing, start acting like a decent human being.

I’ll say it again, then.

There is no justice, no ‘fairness’ in the Universe. But the beauty of being Human is that we are able to conceive of Justice, to conceive of Fairness, and to create them in our world.

Anger is a weapon and a tool. But it is like fire in that it will burn you as well, and to live in it is as destructive as living in a fire. You have to learn to live outside of it, to master it, to choose not to be angry. There’s a million things it is very easy to get angry about, and if that is your mindset, very difficult to unlearn. But you don’t have to get angry about everything, or anything in particular. You have to make that choice. Most of the time anger is unhelpful.

Stop listening to right wing media. As my sig line above, it is ‘little packets of fear and outrage, sold like crack from your computer and TV’. It is a drug and it is addictive. It is also a lot of lies wrapped around a partial truth, designed to mislead you and make you support things counter to your own interests.

If you have bigoted friends, walk away. It might be hard, but as long as you have that shit whispered in your ears from people you trust, like or respect, it is going to be a part of you. Start by asking why you like, trust or respect these people in the first place.

Stop creating threads for a while. Work on your Google Fu and do some research and some reading. The sum total of Human Knowledge (and a whole sea of crap) is at your fingertips.

STOP HATING ME FOR BEING A WHITE MAN!!!

Because even though I know we’ve never met and have no idea what I look like, I’m sure you do.

I’m not a racist. Sometimes I say racist shit online, but don’t believe my words that I post online; just believe my behavior in real life which you never see.

CHRIST! When is the white man finally gonna catch break?!?!?! First they tell us we can’t own slaves. Then they tell us that our wives can vote. Then they tell us blacks can take our seats at the front of the bus. Then our wives, sisters, and daughters join the goddamn workforce and take our jobs, and then Mexicans, Indians, and Asians take even more of our jobs. And then the robots with female voices started taking over the jobs of robots with male voices.

WHEN DOES IT STOP?!?!?!

Oh look, the ATTENTION WHORE TROLL makes yet another thread basically crying for attention and saying ‘LOOK AT ME!!!’.

Leaving all out the rest… man, it sounds like your brother was very incorrect… about… uh, apparently *quite *a wide range of topics.

Please don’t start a thread about this bizarre sexual theory. I can’t even imagine how he… I mean, that… What?

Before the OP started spouting RW BS about the removal of statue and white privilege, he mainly started innocuous Cafe Society threads seeking opinions about music in 1990s, life in the 1970’s and the like, which don’t really require a lot of participation or well thought-out posts. And he generally participates in threads he starts.

FWIW, his latest non-Cafe Society thread is about the plight of native Americans, and appears to be free of any obvious RW talking points.

That explains why you’re so angry.

WIN buttons.

Don’t forget the WIN buttons.

Bingo.

This is bullshit. A genuine apology means you realize you did something bad and regret doing it. But if you’re apologizing to be liked, then you’re not actually remorseful for bad stuff you did, you’re just sorry that people responded negatively to your negative behavior, and the apology is purely self-serving. A genuine apology also requires you to take responsibility for the bad actions, but you don’t - you write that you’re angry and say things without thinking like it’s an immutable force of nature, but it’s not - you choose to write your ‘angry’ posts. You declare that you’re a reactionary like it justifies something, but it just means that you support bad things happening to other people because change makes you uncomfortable - that is, that you’re a self-centered inconsiderate jackass. Even worse, you don’t even know what you did wrong - you just offer a shotgun apology for whatever will make the other person stop disliking you. If you genuinely felt remorse, you’d know what you feel remorse for in the first place!

Also in the other direction, caring a lot about what people on a message board think of you is horribly unhealthy. There’s a set of people on here that hate me because I use the standard definition of “know” in discussing a TV show instead of some weird non-standard definition that they can’t articulate but that definitely means a character doesn’t “know” something that she clearly knows by the ordinary meaning. (I’m not mischaracterizing the argument, one of them literally told me that their problem is that I’m using the standard definition of “knows”) I can’t imagine losing sleep over whether these people like me, or offering an apology for speaking in standard English when discussing a TV show on an English-language message board. And if I did want to be accepted by these people, I’d stop posting in regular English and adopt their definition, instead of posting in standard English but offering an apology for what I’m going to keep doing.

Whip Idiots Now?

I hear they call you Mr. Fahrenheit when you’re angry.

Get a therapist you trust. Don’t work these things out on a message board.

I concur with others on this. I picked one poster at random who is a respected long-time contributor and looked at his stats. It was just what I expected: a little over 100 thread starts out of 20,000 posts in nearly 15 years. The OP has started more threads than that in just the last three months, most of them uninteresting or stupid and many of them redundant and annoying (some of the latter being almost immediately closed).

And yet, despite being told at least three times that this is a problem, and acknowledging it here, the attention whore has since upped his output to three new threads in the subsequent single day. So whatever else the OP may be, he’s clearly unresponsive to the advice he’s been given.

It’s not always entirely about being an attention whore, although I do think the OP is afflicted with this issue. It’s more generally a symptom of having no filter between brain and keyboard, so that every brain fart causes a new thread to be inflicted on the board, regardless of quality or value or interest. What it demonstrates in my view is contempt for the quality of discourse on the board and the time of its members and readers.

OP, if you’re asking for advice, here’s mine: Stop. Think. Insert a thought process between brain fart and keyboard. Not everyone thinks your every passing thought is as fascinating as you do. Show some respect for your fellow members by aiming for quality instead of quantity.

IMO this snip is real insightful.

Assuming for a moment the OP’s statements in this thread are the whole truth, he’s sorta like a drowning man grasping at any floating tidbit. Somewhat intellectually curious, inherently a decent soul, but trapped in an ignorant family after an ignorant upbringing.

To have finally found a group of decent thoughtful people to talk to must be a real breath of fresh air. So he’s (unwittingly?) trying to make up for lost time by blurting out every idea he can remember ever having.

It may be understandable behavior, but that doesn’t make it attractive behavior. Especially to the degree he’s still watching/reading RW propaganda and spouting off on his habitual IRL hobby horses. There’re other boards that might love that stuff. Rightly or wrongly, we mostly don’t.

This is a club open to anyone. The only real rule is “Don’t be a jerk.” Which the community interprets to include “engage brain before posting.” Your (any your) posts *are *your persona. Be somebody you’d be proud to be. Be your better self. That’s a lot easier to do here than it is in real life. Said another way: there’s not much excuse for not doing it here.

I always thought that posters like this were just people who are suddenly unemployed.

If you, like myself, were a teenage smart-ass at the time (come to think of it, those two terms are almost interchangeable), you wore it upside down and claimed it stood for “Need Immediate Money.”

:cool:

We shall save the SAWB button discussion for another time and another thread 8-).