I’m willing to bet the ranch, your teacher said more to you than you’re telling us. No teacher threatens to call parents over something so ill defined as you’ve posted.
There is more to this, but you like cryptic. Fine.
As you don’t want to tell us sufficient information to actually comment, I’m going to guess that, yes, you are actually quite a creeper. The way you post on this board speaks volumes about who you really are, politics aside.
You dance around what you want to say, you post loaded questions, ill defined polls, often don’t respond when questioned on your posted nonsense, etc, etc.
Don’t do this anymore. There, problem solved. It’s obvious from your wording that you know these people don’t want you to do this. Leave them alone. It sounds like they don’t want to have you around in the first place, nevermind that you’re trying to annoy them. Maybe they’re jerks who don’t have a good reason for being rude to you, but that doesn’t make it OK for you to bother them. If they don’t want to talk to you, talk to someone else.
Not really directed at Qin, but I remember a guy in my class who was an Aspie (well, it was never confirmed, but his behaviour matched perfectly) and when I had the opportunity to read some of the posts he made online, he was a totally different person. His writing was articulate and on topic. Meanwhile, in person, his verbal tics included shouting profanities and he had trouble getting his point across while speaking and missed social cues.
Qin could be pushing personal boundaries in person that he doesn’t even realize are there. We’re trying to figure this out based on his words online, and we see him as a bright teenager. I’m not saying this is a bad thing, just that we may not be seeing everything going on.
Which some girls might actually not enjoy but feel they have to allow it because of the prevailing cultural attitude of high school and the “popular/cute boys”. It’s easier to complain when a 'not cool" guy does something than when it’s the high school quarterback. It’s not fair, but it’s true.
I don’t know where you fit into the hierarchy in school, Qin but just because other boys are doing something to the girls really, really doesn’t mean you should be doing it too, even if it’s only halfway like you say in your OP.
Did the great sociologist/professor ever find time to talk with you about your grades???
BTW, don’t joke with your schoolmates unless they are your intimates, which, it appears, these are not. Most people don’t have a sense of humor. Or, if they do, it is extremely low brow.
Sounds like you don’t fit in, or don’t FEEL you can fit in <which are separate things, btw; your perceptions are not necessarily reality> and are throwing elbows to say ‘Fuck it, I don’t care’.
Knock it off.
Qin, if you are different, you should do what you can not to appear too different to others, but it’s not your fault if you are different. If you don’t fit in, that’s their fault. You can see the attitude of other’s in this thread who assume the worst and think you should be an outcast because you aren’t like everyone else. These are adults, teenagers can be much worse. You should be cautious in everything you do at school. If you’ve done something wrong, stop doing it. But I don’t think your teacher has handled the situation well unless there is something you haven’t told us.
I am very skeptical we’re getting the whole story. Qin sees small talk as doing things to them? If the OP sees himself as doing pretty much anything to his classmates, rather than with or for them, then there’s the problem right there. They are not experimental subjects. They are not objects to use.
Qin, you apparently see yourself as doing things to people. Whatever those things are, stop them.
Qin Shi Huangdi - You might try a social club at school, like Chess Club, or something like that. You need a social outlet, and something that has specific activities and behaviors might help you understand what’s expected of you when you interact with others. It may not be natural, but there’s nothing that says you can’t learn these behaviors.
Another suggestion: Drama Club. Seriously! A co-worker of mine, also an Aspie, found this very helpful in high school. Actors are given very precise direction when playing a character - you are told exactly what and how to speak, where and how to stand, etc. My co-worker took the experience of playing characters and used those characters in later life. One example, he could play “happy to be at work today guy”, something we all have to do sometimes.
If you want to “raise your game” in social skills, you need to be around, observer, and follow the examples of people who have better social skills than you. Chess club may not be that place.
Well so I got called up to the psychologist’s office yesterday because the girl although I’d stopped the behvaiour was still uncomfortable with even my presence in class and had told the psychologist of this. She not only told of my behaviour in school but for example how on Facebook I had supposedly trolled a group-not against her but still she ran it or how I had sent her links of questionable taste (which I do to several people)-although she had found it funny at the time. I was forced to transfer my class to another teacher and made to promise that I wouldn’t “troll” or “spam” or whatnot.
