What kind of links were they? And why do you send them to people you’re not friends with? It sounds pretty creepy. Also, you didn’t mention this at all earlier…are there other things that you are leaving out?
Some stories of a vulgar nature which she laughed at.
Well we were if not exactly personal friends at least we were close acquaintances and Facebook friends.
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It wasn’t in the original complaint.
Sigh.
OK, in addition to the very good advice given by all above…
Try not to "troll’ facebook groups, especially those run by people you know IRL. (if in fact you really did do this). Most people find trolling unappealing, and it is not likely to make people enjoy your company, either on line or in person.
Also, sending links of questionable taste (if in fact you did this) should only be done to folks that you know really, really well. Like your best buddy for all time that you know absolutely for sure will “get” them. Sending them to folks that are only school friends or acquaintances is pretty much a sure way to get into trouble. The danger is that these people will wonder “what did he actually mean by sending me this?” and then possibly come up with unpleasant answers that may not be accurate.
Thank you.
Well to be detailed, the group in question was for a class (AP Euro to be exact) and I invited some people not in the class, from elsewhere into the group for both some humour and helping us with the work there. Unfortunately they largely trolled it.
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They were used to this sort of stuff from me.
Before you send out vulgar links to people, try asking yourself this: Would Jesus send out that link?
I feel really, really bad for that girl. Yeah, there’s a chance she’s just being a bitch, but it sounds more likely that you’re being a total creeper. Did you send her pictures of porn or gore or something? She could easily have pretended to laugh as a defense mechanism because she didn’t know how else to react.
You might want to stop interacting with girls you like until you get some therapy and learn some proper boundaries. Because you’re doing it wrong, and it’s going to get you in trouble. Maybe legal trouble, if you were an adult and did this to a girl at your job.
Yep, the links were while not filthy are certainly not moral in its concent.
Certainly not. Mildly inappropriate literature at worst.
I didn’t particularly like her-it was her friend in the class. And as I’ve said I’ve never inappropriately touched them or use obscene language or whatnot.
You must let your parents know write away. Advice from a teacher is one thing, but being directed to the school psychologist is very serious. You could be suspended. Talk to your parents tonight so they can get the facts and be effective advocates for you.
I have to say my sympathies are with the girls here Qin, because it sure sounds like you were persistently behaving in a creepy manner.
Since most of this seems to have been stuff you intended to be funny but didn’t come across that way to others, I’d advise you to stop trying to be funny. Sharing tasteless jokes with your closest friends is one thing, but your attempts at humor have creeped out your classmates and resulted in you being forced to change classes. Was whatever amusement you got out of getting too close to girls in your class and making mischief on Facebook worth the trouble it caused?
FWIW, a lot of people – especially teenage girls – smile or laugh when they are nervous or uncomfortable. It doesn’t necessarily mean they think you’re funny.
Qin you seem to frame your actions in terms of lines you don’t cross (you didn’t touch, so that’s okay, you didn’t use obscene language, so that’s okay, etc.) It might help if you start considering whether your actions are producing any benefit to the people you interact with.
These people are classmates; your connection with them is the subject you study. Perhaps you should focus on building relationships on an academic level and using that as a foundation for a more general relationship.
Clearly, they were not, since they felt it necessary to report you.
Qin, perhaps you could describe these links better – would they be allowed to be posted here?
Seriously, first your teacher, then the school psychologist, and you still don’t get why people are creeped out? They may have been “used to it” from you, but that doesn’t necessary mean that they didn’t mind it. It might have been that they were merely tolerating your behavior, until it got to be too much.
These can’t be just “mildly vulgar stories” here, considering you were also transferred to another class.
You need to describe what you DID do, not what you didn’t. Stop being so vague.
I’m not sure what that answer means.
Now that you’ve admitted to sending girls creepy links and standing as close to them as you can, I think you can drop the prissy, holier than thou act.
Qin, Let me give you some basics that will help.
Never stand close to someone you are not closely intimate with; (good friends, girlfriends, etc) Keep a one to two foot buffer for everyone else. Don’t creep up on people to fighten them unless they fit into the above category as they will not get the joke. You are rather lucky you didn’t get punched.
Facebook friends are not real friends. Ever. Unless you are good friends in real life first, this relationship is best described as a passing acquaintance. Pretend that such people are co-workers, and behave accordingly. Be pleasant, don’t share vulgar or filthy stories, and you will be fine.
I know it might be tempting to mess with people as you are obviously more intelligent than most of them. Don’t do this at this time. I’ll be frank; you don’t have the social skills yet to notice when you’ve been found out. Additionally you have the constraint of a “captive” situation in which you must deal with your peers every day. Persist in this an you will find yourself suspended, beat up, or worse. It only takes an accusation from a girl who feels slighted to ruin your reputation. Refrain from this type of thing for your own good. Which brings me to:
Never, ever, EVER, touch, bump, lurk behind or near, blow on, or otherwise physically interact with a young lady, (other than a handshake, etc) unless you are good friends or dating.
I did.
I do realize that what you’ve said thank you.
I knew them before the classes, they weren’t perhaps friends but as I’ve said they were fairly close acquaintances with whom I could discuss most things.
And I was just trying to amuse them with this sort of stuff.
Probably.
That’s quite true. 
No it was more because of the behaviour I mentioned in the OP that I was transferred.
I did.
Ie stories and material of a tasteless and base nature.
Danke.
Links please.
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Awesome.
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Uh-huh… uh-huh… and then what? I, uh, have, uh, an essay on the History of Rule 34 that’s due tomorrow… yeah, that’s the ticket!