you fucking little liarers! an account of 2 days in my life

The BBQ Pit
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I was lined up outside the cafeteria today after lunch with the rest of my class, just standing there minding my own business. Then this girl named Britney came up to me and started screeching in my ear and talking about stupid shit I don’t care about. So I said,

“Britney will you shut-up? I don’t care.” maybe a little harsh but, whatever.

So she keeps talking and so I tap head head, just hardly tapped it, with my knuckles and told her I didn’t care. Then we had to go back to and she went away. Well, about an hour later my fucking nasty teacher called me out into the hall and told me that Britney had a bruise on her head. I was like,

“What the hell?!” So I said, “I didn’t hit her that hard.”

“Well I had some people who saw it write down what they saw.”

I was like, “Yeah her nasty little stuck up friends.” She’s one of those popular, self-centered kids that has like a little group of friends just like her.

So my teacher said, “If your attitude doesn’t improve your going to have detention.”

I was about ready to smack her fucking face in but restrained myself somehow. And when I saw her again, she was walking around and talking like she had a fucking broken neck!

She said that thing about my attitude because last week I hit Britney in the arm (not hard at all) after she had smacked me in the back to where I almost lost my breath and who got in trouble for it? Me! I was provoked, she wasn’t! God damn fucking teacher! She hits me (Britney) hard in the back just about everyday and do I go crying to the teacher? No, but she does when she gets tapped on the arm.

Also, on Monday, my bus was in an accident and I was late to school. In my classes (I have 2 (one sci. and math and the other lang. arts and social studies), we alternate each day)we have to switch books with our book partner everyday. Well, I took my books in to my partner and gave a “sorry I’m late but it’s not my fault look” and dropped her books onto the table, which, by the way, the books were only an inch away from the table. Note: My book partner and I have had some problems in the past that have recently been resolved and we’re friends now. So then, 5 minutes later, I get called into the hall by the same teacher, each of these times, and she tells me some people saw me give my partner a nasty look and slam her books down.

What the hell is going on?! Do both my classes hate me because I get better grades or for some other stupid reason?! Or is my life just a worthless string of shit?

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Hey, maybe things will be better in the 5th grade.

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Wow.

First, you don’t touch people, period.

You never, ever hit people, not even a “tap”. It can get you into a great deal of trouble, as you have seen. Since you mentioned that you hit Britney in the arm last week, I believe that you hit her more than a “tap” on her forehead.

Welcome to the rest of your life. From now on–high school, college, grad school, the office–you will have to deal with cliques and unpleasant people. Learning to deal with them in a mature manner now, i.e. ignoring them and smiling in the face of open hostility, will pay big dividends later in life.

And don’t swear, it’s so common and unbecoming to young ladies. If you use obscenities as part of your regular vocabulary, you will get a VERY bad reputation, plus you’ll have nothing to say when you slam your fingers in a door.

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I’m assuming from your post you’re a high school student. I can sympathize. High school can be exceptionally difficult for those who don’t follow the crowd. And it can be exceptionally frustrating when you’re intellectually above the level of many of your classmates (as is implied in your OP).

It sounds like your classmates are giving you a lot of grief because you’re not part of their in-crowd. And in my humble opinion, high-school-age teenagers can be some of the most cruel people in the world – they’ve learned how to be mean enough to twist the knife but aren’t quite old enough to know how much that can hurt. Been there. Done that. Still got the emotional scars to prove it – see? :slight_smile:

It’s hard to give advice on how to cope with that kind of anger and retaliation from your classmates. All I can say is that they’re doing it out of a desire to prove to each other just how cool they are. “D’ja see that, Muffy? We just made that girl’s life hell! Let’s go have a frappucino!” Keep in mind that they’re insecure and they’re also trying to prove something to themselves. It doesn’t excuse their behavior, but at least you know it’s not personal.

That being said, when you get this kind of treatment from them and you hear about it from your teachers, explain the situation to the teacher. Calmly. Rationally. No raving. Tell them that you’re getting a lot of flack from this particular group and that they’re trying to make you look bad. At least that way the teacher’ll know what’s going on and you won’t be catching hell from the Powers that Be (the teachers and associated other authority figures).

One thing, however – DON’T HIT THEM. That encounter with Britney, no matter how much she exaggerated what happened, was your fault. She may be annoying, yes. That doesn’t mean it’s okay to rap her on the head with your knuckles. (It’s tempting, I know, but don’t do it.) When you do that, you’ve provoked them to retaliate and get you in trouble. Plus, it’s not okay to hit folks you don’t like, no matter how lightly you do it. When you do, you’re not in the right anymore – you’ve put yourself firmly in the wrong.

Just ignore them as much as possible. It ain’t easy. But in a couple of years, when you’re off to college, what Britney and her friends think of you and what they do to you won’t make a hill of beans anymore. Be strong and don’t give in to their BS.

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Life lesson I learned the hard way:
When it seems like everyone else in the world is being a total jerk, look in the mirror. It’s usually you. I mean like 99% of the time.

Keep your hands off other people.

Zette

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That’s the funniest thing I’ve read all day! Bravo Gobear!

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ozonebaby, You’re not going to like this at all but I agree with gobear. You must keep your hands to yourself. If she hits you in the back tell a teacher. Hitting her yourself will only get you in trouble and make you look like a jerk and a trouble maker. You could have easily been suspended from school for that.

It seems pretty clear that you don’t like this girl, if you really want to get to her ignore her. Act as if she does not exist. It will bug her and keep you out of trouble at the same time. Now, go forth and strike no more.

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Funny? I think it comes off as sexist. Not to mention that it reinforces gender sterotypes.

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Wow. Fist gobear tells her not to swear, and you parrot that she should attempt to tell a teacher and ignore the perpetrator. This is so massively unrealistic.

I don’t know what universe you two are coming from, but generally the popular will get their friends to corroberate their story, making the unpopular person look like they are lying. Furthermore, bullies do not allow themselves to be ignored. They escalate behaviour until they get the response that is desired.

What this young woman needs are skills in avoiding the bullies, and when they behaviours are unavoidable, to cope and manage the situation without having to consistently lose.

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Swearing is common and unbecoming to young men, too.

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Or at the very least don’t swear at teachers when they are accusing you of something. Swear at your fellow students. And be more creative in your swears.

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I have to ask, just out of curiosity: Did you write an article on Aerosmith for your school’s last paper? If not, then it’s just a coincidence, but I have to ask.

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Very true. And often (at least in my experience as a parent), a bully’s parents are little help either. Most of the ones I’ve had to deal with (as a parent myself) either (a)believe their little angel can do no wrong, or (b) do nothing but pay lip service to get you away. It’s very hard to teach courtesy and consideration to a child when many of their peers, and too many adults, show none themselves.

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ozone, did you ever post at a message board called Smile and Act Nice under the name Dead Poetess?

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Hastur *
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The universe I come from is one where you don’t hit. Especially where you don’t hit first. Wwhich is from what the young lady says happened today or which ever day she was talking about ** * " So she keeps talking and so I tap head head, just hardly tapped it, with my knuckles and told her I didn’t care. Then we had to go back to and she went away. Well, about an hour later my fucking nasty teacher called me out into the hall and told me that Britney had a bruise on her head. * **

Fighting in school can get you thrown out. Telling a teacher if the other person hits you may help your case, should you not be able to avoid a fight. It is better to walk away or ignore the other person where possible than to fight. If the teacher does nothing then ozonebaby needs to have her parents to contact the principle.

But hitting someone because they are talking and annoying you is unacceptable. I don’t care if they did hit you first a few days before. Ozonebaby didn’t tell the teacher then either, she just hit the girl back ** * She said that thing about my attitude because last week I hit Britney in the arm (not hard at all) after she had smacked me in the back to where I almost lost my breath and who got in trouble for it? Me! I was provoked, she wasn’t! God damn fucking teacher! She hits me (Britney) hard in the back just about everyday and do I go crying to the teacher? No, but she does when she gets tapped on the arm. * **

Ozonebaby didn’t try to handle it the right way either time.

But that’s my view in my universe.

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No. What this young woman needs are skills in NOT ACTING LIKE A MORON by hitting people.

Look, dude, I was a VERY unpopular person throughout my life in school. Go get a copy of “The Secret Life of Teens” and read a section titled “Sticks And Stones May Break My Bones…” That was written by me. I know all about bullies and people getting their friends to back them up, everything you’re talking about here. I can definitely emphasize with ozonebaby’s feelings about the “liarers.”

But y’know what? ozonebaby acted like an all-out fool by hitting that girl. Those girls, actually, since she says she hit another one prior to the instance in the OP. You don’t hit people. Especially not when you feel you’re being victimized or singled out by the rest of the class. That’s just giving them a legitimate reason to come after you. Get some common sense.

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So I am hanging out in the Resource centre, photocopying my new course brochures and chatting with Taylor and my General Manager comes up and she’s “Redboss when is your budget report going to be finished, the whole department is waiting for it”, which first off is a lie because I know that Courtney and Tiffany still haven’t handed theirs in, and I go well, I can’t finish it yet, this is a private conversation, a little harsh perhaps, but whatever, and I reach over and flick her ear with my index finger, real gently I swear.

Anyway the next thing she’s in tears and the office manager is running out, what have you done, she’s needing an ambulance, all dramatic. And I am really over all this Drama, and I say oh mind your own business I didn’t hit her that hard. Well, the next thing the CEO is shouting at me and telling me to clean out my desk. And I looked at Courteny expecting wshe would support me and she never even said a thing. Well I showed them. I quit I said and Evelyn you’re just a big crybaby, and I never liked this job anyway and I gaven’t really been trying here since day one, anyway.

Well you should of seen their faces they were just so shocked. I have certainly given them a think or two.

I expect to get many job offers in the next week or so, in the mean time I am hanging out at Kimberley’s, so if you hear of any jobs going please call me there.

Redboss

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Children make me laugh… “Like, OH my god, and stuff” HE HE HE :smiley:

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redboss…

::applause::

but ozonebaby, something about HS social groups.

now, me, i generally hang out with a better crowd than the “popular” clique. i stick with the “spend lunch in the library debating a variety of topics” clique. there should be a chapter of us at your school; there always is.

find it. it will be GREAT for your mental health.

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I have common sense, and if you did, you’d have seen that nowhere in my remarks was I condoning her violence.

Her actions in retribution were wrong. Was I addressing that? No. I was addressing simplistic Pollyanna-like advice being spewed forth by schmucks. Ignore it. Right.

And the comment made previous about swearing? Insipid and sexist. You of course simply sided on the insipid, while gobear went for the whole package.

Grow the fuck up and drop the word ‘dude.’ Only narrow minded cretins who think there are simple solutions, blaming the VICTIM, instead of the culprits at large indulge in such vapid banter.