OF course. It would be rude not to.
Of course I wouldn’t post on a web site a photograph of somebody who wanted me not to. The only exceptions ought to be mug shots and public figures. Probably preteen girls would be the highest priority not to offend against.
What’s the point of ignoring their wishes? Take it down.
Depends on where it was taken - if you go to a public place (or private place which is open to the public) where you do not have a reasonable expectation of privacy, why do you think of it as a violation of your privacy to have your image recorded? Anyone could have seen you there and they would have seen the same thing.
Now if you were at a private party doing something you wouldn’t have done in public, that’s a different matter.
I would take it down, it is just common courtesy. My parents allowed me to have veto power over what pictures of me they put up for display, and sent to family members at christmas, so I see no reason not to render the same politeness to everybody else.
OK, I admit I do have a short videoclip of mrAru dancing around with the cat on my cell phone, and joke about it being blackmail material, but he thinks it is funny also and goes along with the joke.
Of course you effing well take it down, and anyone who’s remotely bothered by that is a tosser.
I had a freind of mine post some pictures of last years new years eve party and had one of me that was not really flattering , even though i was completely sober, so I asked her to take it down.
Declan
Yes. I take them down. What do I really gain from putting it up there that outweighs pissing them off or making them upset?
Your question answers it’s self.
I generally don’t tag people unless I feel it’s a flattering picture. If someone asked me to remove a picture, I’d either remove it or crop it.
There are perfectly normal things people do in public, like sneezing or yawning, that can be quite embarrassing in a still photograph. I wouldn’t care if somebody saw me sneeze. I would care if my mid-sneeze expression was frozen for all time and posted for everyone to see.
I’d want others to extend me the same courtesy so, yes, I’d do it. There are two un-flattering pictures of me on facebook, but I’ve allowed them to stay because I haven’t really felt strongly enough to ask them to be taken down.
Exactly.
For some people, there’s no such thing as a decent photo, in their mind. Even photos that show them looking perfectly normal, and that everyone else in the world agrees are a flattering likeness, get rejected as unacceptable.
While i will remove a picture from a photo gallery if the person who makes the request is the only person (or the main person) in the picture, if they are just one person in a group shot, then they are just going to have to live with it, especially if they are one of those over-precious “I hate photos of me” types.
I should add, though, that i don’t use Facebook, and most of the time when i post images from parties and stuff, it’s on a private site, and i only send links to the people who are directly involved. Their faces are not displayed for all the world to see, like they are on Facebook, MySpace, etc.
In the case described by the OP, i’d definitely take it down, because while 12-year-old angst may not be especially rational, it’s a very real issue for kids, and not worth making her upset about.
One of my friends tagged some photos from her Labor Day barbeque party as me. All but one don’t have me in them at all–they show my twelve-year-old son, who I assure you would never be mistaken for me. 
I mentioned it to her, but she never untagged the pictures … I just let it go, I don’t like to sweat the small stuff.
Why does everyone think that Facebook or Myspace is inherently not private? You can make any photo private on there, if you want to.
As for the OP, the only reason I can come up with to keep the image up is if you are using it as some sort of teaching lesson. If she was whining and complaining about it, rather than asking like an adult, I might wait until she asked nicely, to teach her that whining will not get her what she wants. I’d list other prime teaching scenarios, but I’m sure you can all think of some. The main point is to avoid giving your kid a sense of entitlement.
Would I take it down if it wasn’t my kid? Probably, with the same caveats as other posters above. I could also see myself using Photoshop and taking them out if I really, really like the picture. Actually, rather than remove, I’d probably just move them to my private album. If they have a problem with me seeing the picture (which I probably took), then that’s an example of entitlement, an a whole 'nother story.
Well, in my case, there might be two explanations:
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As i said, i don’t use either of them. And i mean, at all. I signed up for both a long time ago, just so i could see some pictures that someone sent me, but i haven’t visited either site in months, and i don’t use my own accounts at all.
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As far as i’ve been able to tell from various conversations on message boards etc., plenty of people who use Facebook and MySpace all the time still don’t completely understand how to use the privacy settings. The cynical side of me suspects that the people who run Facebook and MySpace might prefer things this way, although it could just be that the average Facebook and MySpace user is as thick as two short planks. Not sure, really.
I hate that. I’m looking at photos of someone, and I get a bunch of photos that are just of their kids. You know, you can type their real name in, rather than using their parents. I know the idea is to make it easier for the parent to see them, but you could, y’know, publish them on their wall.
BTW, you don’t have to ask them to untag you. You can just untag yourself (assuming you have a Facebook account) It is said taht you can also make it where you have to approve other people’s tagging you, although I’ve personally never tried it.
Quote for those of you who can’t find it/don’t have Facebook: