This has happened to me a couple times as well. But there was one time that it was more than clear what she wanted.
I was at a gaming convention in a hotel for a weekend. The first night there, I’m walking around with some friends chatting. A girl in about 6" stripper heels, a short skirt, low cut top with a corset that made her ample cleavage even more prominent marched up to me, pressed her breasts against my chest and announced to all and sundry that she was taking me to bed with her. I was past bothered and into struck speechless and somewhat terrified territory. After being informed (by someone else as I was still struck dumb) that I was gay, answered something to the effect of, “and your point is?”. My friends, still having powers of speech and motor skills, moved me away from her. They also graciously played bodyguard as she continued pursuing me the rest of the weekend.
I would be a bit flattered, a bit bothered and a bit surprised. I’m flattered when I get a serious pass from anyone. At the same time, I’m a bit bothered if it isn’t one that I would consider reciprocating (the socially inept nerdy thing). And surprised because a serious pass in person doesn’t come my way as often as it used to.
I picked “I’m a straight female, and it would depend on <blank>.”
Blank being whether or not it was a coworker, because that would bother me about the same as when I’ve been hit on by male coworkers I’m not remotely interested (keep in mind the OP said a serious pass, not just a bit of easily dismissed flirting). I’ve been neither flattered nor particularly bothered by women in other situations barking up the wrong tree.
I’m another Ganymede in the poll. I’m a straight male, and I don’t think I would be flattered or bothered by it. When a woman’s into me, that’s very relevant to me, but if a man’s into me, I don’t really see why I should care one way or the other about it.
Straight male. The only dance club in this town worth going to is the gay club (and most of the straight women go there anyway), so this happens to me on a pretty regular basis. Never had any issues with it; I take it as a compliment. Come to think of it, I’ll have more of a problem when it stops happening.
Skald you ask the toughest questions! I can’t answer the poll because it has never happened to me. I don’t know ? I don’t think I’d be offended or flattered, I would just be uncomfortable.
Surprised, certainly, as I don’t ping anyone’s gaydar, or at least so I’ve heard. I voted for “it depends” only because “polite” is so relative. If he were in fact quite polite to my standards, I probably wouldn’t understand that he was making a pass, because I’m both dense and (unfortunately) heterosexist. If he did manage to be forward enough to make me get the message without being rude, I’d probably be flattered.
Straight male and it would depend on who and how; and I’m active enough in various GLBT functions locally that its not a theoretical for me - it happens now and then. Mashers are mashers no matter what the orientation and not flattering. Some generally nice guy who likes being around me; flattering. Typical “hi honey” in passing at a bar is just neutral.
I went for “it depends” because, really, I’d be neither flattered nor bothered, just sort of surprised. After which I’d decline as politely as I was approached.
That has actually happened to me 2 or 3 times over the years. Like I said, I always find it a bit surprising, but no big deal.
