"Sorry, but I don't feel any physical attraction for you."

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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[QUOTE=delphica]
But it does make me wonder if there is a bit of a Catch-22 for some people … being turned down for a date isn’t fun (as I know), so the same man who thought “thanks but no thanks” was too vague would have also thought “thanks, but no thanks, I’m not feeling the attaction” was too blunt.
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Just like many woman will say, “I would love nothing more than for a nice guy to ask me out when I am in the market” and “I hate it when creeps try to hit on my when I’m shopping.”

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“Sorry… you’re nice and all, but I’m only into good-looking men.”

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[QUOTE=jsgoddess]
Again, I don’t understand why she “clarified” her position later. How was your discontent with her answer brought to her attention?
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Basically, I said something like “Sorry to hear about that. I know that people have their preferences” or words to that effect. Nothing big.

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In other words, my discontent was NOT brought to her attention. I didn’t tell her that I thought she was being rude.

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[QUOTE=JThunder]
In other words, my discontent was NOT brought to her attention. I didn’t tell her that I thought she was being rude.
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Well, unless she saw the post at the forum.

I think what this thread demonstrates is that there is no surefire way to turn someone down. I think saying “I’m not attracted to you” is an clear, non-insulting way. Perhaps there should be a list of acceptable statements that both parties agree to beforehand!

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[QUOTE=jsgoddess]
I think what this thread demonstrates is that there is no surefire way to turn someone down. I think saying “I’m not attracted to you” is an clear, non-insulting way. Perhaps there should be a list of acceptable statements that both parties agree to beforehand!
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I emailed my pictures to a women who I thought put it very well. She said, “thanks for your interest but I tend to be drawn to men of a different type.” I wrote her back and said, “Nicely put. Do you mind if I use that?”

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[QUOTE=hajario]
I emailed my pictures to a women who I thought put it very well. She said, “thanks for your interest but I tend to be drawn to men of a different type.” I wrote her back and said, “Nicely put. Do you mind if I use that?”
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Yes, I like that.