I make no judgements about the OP. I happen to be a native New Yorker and will always love and adore NYC. So I fully understand why someone would do everything they can to stay here. If schools were not a consideration I would gladly move back home.
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You know, Miss has never pinged my bitchdar before, but she’s sending my crazydar into overdrive right now. My guess (or hope, rather) is she’s not a bad egg, but is stressed to high heaven and is flipping out on people. Or maybe I just haven’t been paying attention, whatever.
In NYC 650 would be with a roommate. $200 would be with 10 roommates in a 2 bedroom apt.
650 with one roommate, which is, I think, is what she said, is a good deal. (depending on neighborhood, but it would have to be a horrible neighborhood for that to be bad)
I don’t think this is at all fair. We can’t know that she had any intention whatsoever of collecting any money from people. Furthermore she has adamantly denied it.
She may have overreacted, that is true. But in all due respect, she is going through a lot of pressure right now. How about giving her some slack right now instead of trying to push her buttons? ]
I know button pushing and stick poking is the norm around here, esp in the pit. Doesn’t make it any less assholish, though.
Glad I’m not the only one who’s Mississippi upbringing comes right back out when I’m pissed. You did it so well I go my accent back talking to a co-worker just now.
People forget that NJ is just across the river. Hoboken ain’t cheap, but what about Newark? I made it there for five years on a salary of $12-16K. I paid $475 for a 1 bedroom (no roommate). Right on the train line. 40 minutes from Manhattan.
Plenty of poor folks have lived in NYC for generations. The difference, I think, is that they tend to have familial support. And government support. Neither of which the OP has.
Many either live in housing that is substandard compared to their peers elsewhere, extreme roommate settings (beds used in shifts, etc), or they’re from a family that is long established in the area, with property that was purchased back when it was affordable.
Firemen and cops? Multigenerational residents, it’s easy to live in NYC when you, or your parents or grandparents, bought a house in one of the boroughs back when prices were comparable to Upstate cities. Jobs in my field pay the same in NYC as they do upstate, yet they’re always filled … by Downstate natives that don’t have to worry about housing costs.
Luck, basically. Being in the right place at the right time.
I don’t get this. She has found a space for 650. She isn’t the only person I know from NYC who have, with a roommate, found an apartment for under 900. No government help.
If she is fine with a roommate, why would she move to Buffalo to look for an apartment when she has already found an apartment for 6 fucking 50? Where I live in Rochester, 650 is good rent. She would be silly to leave a city she loves to come to say, Rochester and get an apartment for comparable rent.
Again, how far does this go? If I hit a road block and have trouble making my 500 dollar rent, do you suggest I move to Virginia? There are apartments in Virginia for 400. It would be bigger than what I have here, and I wouldn’t need a roommate. But I would never want to live in Virginia. It would seem really bizarre to me to choose to move to a city I don’t want to be in instead of figuring out what moves I can make to stay in a city I love.
I regret that the Mississipienne was so rude in that other thread, because I really want to go hard in defending her on this part of her gripe.
NYC is the kind of city I would move to if I didn’t have ties upstate, holding me here. If it was rougher, tougher, smaller, more cramped…doesn’t matter. My daughter and her father agree with me that we freaking LOVE that city’s vibe and would totally make crazy sacrifices to live there if we could. Since I was very young, I have gone there every chance I get, to soak in the energy of the place. I don’t knock anyone for loving the city and wanting to stay there. I can’t figure out why people feel the need to pretend that you either have to be on welfare or rich to live there. It simply isn’t true. I know tons of people who this isn’t true for, so I’m sincerely baffled why it is a trope I keep coming across.
Plus, an appreciable difference between Syracuse and NYC, both places I’ve lived in, is that winter down here doesn’t start in late October and it ends before early May. This alone may be worth a hundred bucks a month.
NYC is also full of cheap things to do. You don’t need a car to go anywhere. The subway is only four bucks round trip and it goes all over the city. The Staten Island ferry is even free. Get a copy of the Village Voice (also free) and you’ll find hundreds of listings for free or very low cost performances. Many major NYC museums don’t even ask for admission or have free days.
Food costs aren’t necessarily that high either. There are dollar stores and cheap pizza everywhere. The schools are mediocre at best so it’s not particularly good if you have children but if you’re a single person Manhattan and the surrounding areas can be quite doable and fun on a very small budget.
Quoting this in full, because it bears repeating. In Rochester, the public transit system sucks donkey balls. A car is a must. Entertainment is scarce and costly and all but shut down at sun down.
As for schools, if your child is into the arts, the school situation improves greatly.
Which is $1300/Month… My mortgage on a 4 BR house on 1/2 acre in the Midwest is way less. The point people are trying to make is that there are cheaper places to live if one makes the choice to live there instead of in NYC. Clearly she isn’t willing to make that change… so she has to take some responsibility for her situation. I would bet that people working retail part time here are making about the same as she is in NYC, but it goes much further here.
I’ve just gotta butt in to ask Missy if she’s spent much time in Rochester. They’ve got Dinosaur Barbeque, but other than that, there’s a lot of boring in the greater metro area. I’d stay in NYC one way or another.
