And the point some of us who know the city are trying to make is not necessarily that much further. Especially given the fact that you can walk many places in NYC or take very cheap public transportation. The subways and buses run all night and go nearly everywhere. You don’t need to pay four bucks a gallon around here just to go grocery shopping or to work. Ethnic markets can provide cheap prepared food or inexpensive staples. Museums are either free or have free days.
NYC also offers networking chances that may not be available in other places.
It may make sense for her to move out. No one’s denying that. But the notion that that makes sense automatically isn’t necessarily true.
Can you go anywhere important from your half acre without using a car? I live in the NJ suburbs and I can’t. When I lived in Brooklyn and even Staten Island I had two groceries stories in easy walking distance. To get to work from my home in Staten Island was actually free if I walked to the free ferry and then walked to my teaching job in lower Manhattan.
Well, without crossing a street that isn’t residential and less than a mile… let’s see… a liquor store, a dentist, a pizza place, a drug store, a vet, a Chinese place, a fancy breakfast breakfast/lunch place, a grocery store, a bank, two churches, a nail salon, an elementary school with a playground, a golf course, a swimming pool, and a kid’s exercise place.
Same distance, other direction and crossing one semi major street (but not at all difficult to do), Jimmy John’s (sub’s), Computer repair shop, Starbucks, McDonald’s, Steak 'n Shake, a book store, a bar, a Goodwill store, a cafeteria, a car repair shop, a pool place (swimming pools that is), a dance studio, Panerra Bread, another grocery store… the list goes on. My job is a little far, but my wife rides her bike to work sometimes if the weather is nice.
Agreed, but there was no way for the participants in the thread to know which was true without actually asking questions. I don’t recall anyone saying, “It’s obvious you need to leave New York!” I do recall people trying to get a sense of what was keeping her there and whether there were better options elsewhere.
Yeah. I would say this is a soft and snuggly pit thread.
Spud, I hear you, but what we are saying is that there is always somewhere cheaper. The fact that she has found a space where she only has to pay 650 though (with the roommate, which she is fine with), pretty much means that it is silly to ask her to move somewhere else if she loves NYC. 650 is a very good rent almost anywhere.
I do want to apologize to Mississipienne for insinuating that she was trolling for dollars. Although it was my feeling, I didn’t have proof and didn’t try to accuse her of it. I do feel that she went over the line in her responses to people who were trying to help, however she wasn’t reacting in her normal fashion. I would hate for her to leave the boards because of something I wrote. I will repost this in her original thread.
Mississippienne - My apologies. I’m sorry for hurting your feelings.
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You sure know a lot about her for someone you think is such a stranger that you think she could be a murderer. Just like in real life, we can interact with people to determine whether they are likely ax murderers or what have you.
It is not unreasonable to want people not to insinuate that you are some sneaky bad person. In fact, I wouldn’t even say it’s unreasonable to pit someone for such an insinuation. The only unreasonable thing here is how far over the top she went about it.
We were in a romantic relationship. And I worked two jobs *and *went to school during that relationship. Is that the **Foxy40 **definition of needy and dependent? Also as my mother is on unemployment, zo I suppose the gov’ment and citizens are paying most of her bills right now. I don’t like my brother one whit, but he is working, although it’s true his girlfriend owns the house they stay in.
Y’know what, you’re right. We Dopers can’t expect faith points for every year we spend here. Why, you’ve been here since 2005 and your opinion still ain’t worth spit. I take this as a lesson.
Based on your linked OP it is highly unlikely that you are going to be able to survive in any reasonable fashion in NY. Yes, NY is the center of the universe in many ways, and for some good reasons people will sacrifice almost anything to live there.
Per your OP you have no real money reserves and unless there is something fabulous simmering in the background for you this seems to be more of an exercise in how far you are willing to push yourself physically and mentally before admitting economic defeat.
We should all follow our dreams if we can, but if they are taking us to the steps of the homeless shelter it might be time for a re-calibration of your goals.
I work for a state agency and the jobs upstate pay the same as those downstate- and the upstate jobs are often filled by downstate natives who transfer upstate after being hired because of the difference in housing costs.
I don't know that the OP will be able to do any better in another city, but I do know where NYC natives working part-time retail jobs live- they live with family members while paying a token rent. Because you can't even afford a roommate situation on $150 a week before taxes. I know that the OP just had her hours cut, but unpredictable hours just come along with part-time retail. It all depends on business. Part-timers might work as much as 35 or 40 hours during Christmas shopping season, and drop down to 10 hours in January and get their hours bumped up again for a couple of weeks when there's a short busy period and then back down
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