As some of you know (and others may not) I was planning on moving to NY around this August. I was going to be working my ass off in my current job, getting a second job and working my ass off there… anything to make up the money to move. The reason I chose NY is to give lurker and I a decent shot at the relationship we’re exploring right now. It helps that I have other friends in the NYC area, and family in upstate (That’s where I lived for the first 15 years of my life, and everyone is still pretty much up there). The main reason for the move, however, is that living in my parents home is… far from ideal. Things with my Dad are fine. He and I get along wonderfully. And I love my step-mother, don’t get me wrong, but the woman is impossible to live with. Aside from treating me like I’m 17 instead of 27, nothing is ever good enough for her. And she seems to find fault with everything about me. I’m sure she loves me in her own way, and if I were a little less stubborn, maybe things would work. But I’m not, and our personalities clash like you wouldn’t believe. It’s not a healthy situation, and one I was working hard at getting out of. I thought I would be able to hold on for four more months.
Last night proved how wrong I was. Not going into any details, but it was a knock-down, drag-out fight. One that proved to me four months is too long. Our relationship has gotten steadily worse, and to TRY and keep the peace, I’ve bitten my tongue and hidden when I’m sad or depressed or upset. But even that doesn’t seem to help. So, after last night’s debacle, I decided whatever I had to do, I was getting out ASAP. I talked with lurker for 5 hours last night (Ah, my poor phone bill!) and he helped first, calm me down, and second, come up with a game plan. First, I need to try to find a job. So I’m going to be online at job sites today, submitting my resume to companies in the NY area. Monday, I’m going to call the temp agency that I’m through and see if I can get them to send my resume up to their NY office and see if they can find a job for me that way. (Even temp work, at the moment, is better than nothing) Once I have a job, or at least some solid leads, I’ll start looking into the apartment situation, see if I can find something close to where I’m working. Then I’m renting a U-haul, packing it up, and taking a lonely drive to NY.
I do need a little help, though, from any NY area Dopers. I need to know if you know of any jobs that I can apply for/apartments coming up for rent… things like that. I have a solid customer service base (5 years experience) and about 6 months experience in the communications industry (that’s what I’m doing right now) I type about 60 WPM, am VERY computer literate, and even have some web dev skill in my background (worked for a very small web dev company for several years as their HTML programmer, don’t know much beyond HTML) For the apartment… studio or one bedroom right now, though eventually I might need a two because Scralden is looking into moving down and being my roommate. I can’t really do the apartment complexes very well, because my credit is abysmal, and they don’t usually like to take me in because of that. Plus, I’ve found that the little places, or individuals that take in someone in their garage apartment or basement apartment, are usually cheaper (which I need at the moment) and a little more willing to work with you on things, as a general rule. So that’s what I’m looking for, that’s where I need any help that can be provided.
Falcon, dan… with the time table being moved up like this, I don’t know if I’m going to get a chance to stop on my way up. I could be in too much of a hurry. I may try to do the drive all in one day rather than in two since, according to MapQuest, it’s only about a 21, 22 hour drive, and that would save me hotel money. I don’t know yet, though, about whether I’ll stop for the night somewhere. The driving straight through is just an idea. But if I don’t catch you on the way up, I promise I’ll make it down there to see you after I get settled. It’s not too long of a drive, from what I’ve been told, so I’ll make it work there.
TroubleAgain, it doesn’t look like I’m going to make this DopeFest. Just promise me you’ll take lots and lots of pictures and send them my way when you get a chance? You know I’ll be there in spirit.
So… any hugs will be greatly appreciated right now, any thoughts, suggestions, job or apartment leads… pretty much anything, I think. I’ve got a bit of a hard road ahead of me right now.
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