Starting a new job

And the funny thing is, this is all about professionalism. That “kid” who went to bat for me, to bring me back to the convention center? He and I didn’t even get along when we worked together. Personality clash. But we at least had a mutual, professional respect for each other. And I think that that respect is what made him step up for me.

This morning, I phoned another of my former bosses, a lady who owns a small diner downtown, where I worked for three years. Her parents were amongst my residents. I told her how much I loved getting to know her parents, and asked her to say “goodbye” to them, because I wasn’t allowed to say it myself. Another of my residents is the mother of a woman at my church, and I’ve asked that woman to bring her mother to church more often, so that I can at least see one of my residents.

In any case, I inteviewed at the convention center yesterday, and I expect to be back at work any day now :slight_smile:

I envy your life. You seem to lead a life fun, fulfilled, satisfied.

So, I’m sitting around today, and …

… I suddenly realized that I have an amazing opportunity in front of me.

Two of the residents at this retirement home happened to be the parents of a woman I worked for … 13 years ago.

I have maintained good relations with that former boss over the last 13 years.

That former boss is trying to sell that diner, where I cooked for her.

Her mother kept telling me that I should buy the diner.

So … why the hell not?

I don’t have any money, or anything to offer as collateral on a business loan.

But.

I do happen to know a millionaire.

This millionaire has demonstrated over the last 30 years that he is eager to invest in this community.

This millionaire also dated my mom back in high school (1958-1962, or somewhere in there).

I think I can work with this.

Why not give it a try!

Mister Rik, you lead an interesting life :slight_smile: And I mean that in the best way.
I’m glad you have options in front you of. If you do go forward with the restaurant, make sure you know what you’re getting into…budgets, planning, everything.

Mister Rik - Can they keep you from visiting your friends, the residents? I mean what can they do, fire you twice?

StG

They can have him arrested for trespassing. Frail residents, disgruntled ex-employee with access to sharp knives and lots of other dangerous stuff? Call 911!

And they’ve shown that they are the kind of people who could do this.

You would have the diner itself. So all you need to do is get your millionaire friend to front the deposit.

How quickly do the owners want to sell? Might they be interested in letting you gradually buy it? Say 1% per month after 6 months?

The very best of luck to you.

Yup. Company policy says that former employees cannot come back to visit until 60 days have passed. I suspect that this is to avoid confusing the residents. And I kind of understand it. There are certain of my more “confused” former residents who, if they saw me, would assume I was still an employee and might ask me to do this or that, and I wouldn’t actually be able to do it, and then they would get upset. I would imagine that other retirement homes have similar policies. 60 days is mostly long enough for the residents to either forget me, or at least realize that I don’t work there any more.

The sad thing is that some beloved former employees never came back to visit. Earlier this year, we had a little “going away” party for a pair of employees - a brother and sister. The sister was the younger of the two. She was 21 years old, and had just finished her nursing education at the local college. She and her brother were moving to new jobs at the local hospital. The thing was … this girl started working in this place when she was 14 years old. (I assume that she was just volunteering at first.) She spent seven years with some of these residents. At the going-away party, there were old ladies, and some old men, bawling their eyes out because she was leaving. They thought nobody would take care of them like she did. And she promised to come back to visit. If she did come back to visit, I never saw her.

I will be dropping by tomorrow, though. I realized, two days after I was fired, that, when I collected my belongings (my personal knives and other tools), that I had forgotten my spatula. I’ve had that spatula for 20 years. That spatula has been like a spatula to me. I could recognize it by feel, blindfolded, because it has a little groove in the handle, worn by my thumb. So I need that back. And I also need to come back and sign a couple receipts so that I can get reimbursed for some things I paid for out of my own pocket.

(Kudos to anybody who recognized the twofold Weird Al reference in that last paragraph.)

I wouldn’t just want his money. I’d want (and would follow) his advice. He’s a millionaire for a reason. He’s also an incredibly decent guy who cares about our town and its history. And the diner I’d like to buy is an historiclandmark of sorts, and downtown would be a better place if it remains operational and successful.

I cooked in that diner while it was still incredibly successful, and I also cooked there under the current owner, under whose tenure the place has steadily declined. I recognized every mistake she made, and did what I could to dissuade her. But that’s the thing that sucks about not being the boss. All I could do was say, “I think that’s a bad idea, and here’s why”. It was up to her to listen or not. She mostly chose “not”, and the place is a shadow of its former self.

And that’s the thing. I may not be “manager” material, but, at this point in my life, I have been doing what I do for 32 years. I have worked for so many restaurants, some successful and some not. I have seen what works and what doesn’t work. I feel that I have a pretty damned good idea about what makes a successful restaurant work. Especially when it comes to this particular restaurant. Like I said, I worked there both when it was successful and when it started failing.

The first I heard that the place was for sale was from the parents of the current owner. They were amongst my residents at the retirement home. Two of the sweetest, most delightful people you’d ever want to meet. Floyd and Velma. They’ve been together for nearly 70 years. “Together”, not “married”. They never got married. They thought marriage was just a piece of paper. And who can argue with “70 years on their way to forever together” (to quote Paul Harvey). I can’t recall ever meeting two elderly people still so obviously in love with each other after so many years :slight_smile:

Floyd didn’t talk much (he’s on oxygen), but Velma was always very talkative. She loved my cooking, and once she found out that I used to work for her daughter, she told me that the diner was for sale, and kept telling me over and over that I should buy it. When she would say that, I’d always reply with, “But, Velma, if I bought the diner, I wouldn’t be here to cook for you!” But she persisted. She even made a point one day of telling me that her daughter had just lowered her asking price.

But that was before I got fired. I wasn’t going to leave Floyd and Velma, or any of the rest of them.

You know what Velma loved the most about my cooking? My soup. I’m a soup genius. I can take literally anything and turn it into an amazing soup. One day, while cruising the cooler for something to make soup out of (hey, that’s the whole reason soup was invented: using up leftovers), I ended up making a tomato-macaroni-hamburger soup. Which happened to be very similar to the tomato-macaroni soup that has been served at the diner for as long as I can remember. After serving that soup, Velma came and gave me a hug and thanked me for making that soup, because that was her favorite soup at the diner. So a couple weeks later, I made another tomato-macaroni-hamburger soup, from all fresh ingredients, and paid special attention to it to make sure it was awesome. And I let Velma know that I made it just for her.

That was just a couple days before I got fired. Velma’s last words to me were, “Rik, you’re my best friend!”

I would imagine that she would like to sell as soon as possible. I think she realized the place was failing at least 3-4 years ago. She got married to an already-successful local farmer, and then went out and earned a realtor’s license, and has been selling real estate. I suspect that the only reason she still keeps the diner open is because she doesn’t want to put her employees out of work (at least one of whom has been there since before she bought the place).

If I can get the place, my ego says I should rename it, “RIK’S DINER”.

Nope. I’mma call it “LEWIE’S DINER”.

Or just, “LEWIE’S”.

Lewie is my best friend, and I met him when I first went to work there in 1990. Lewie was there long before I came along. Lewie worked in that place for more than 20 years. Lewie worked there through FOUR different owners. Lewie was the heart and soul of that place.

Lewie had a stroke three years ago, at the age of 49. Since then, he’s been unable to work. And, to this day, he still can’t speak, and he can’t even read (which has to be pure hell for him — I thought I was an avid reader, but Lewie was like “a book a day” reader).

I don’t just want the place for myself, I want it for Lewie.

I just need to consult with somebody on how best to present this to my millionaire friend. Like, how to write a business proposal. I don’t think, “Hey, remember when you dated my mom in high school” is the best way to approach it :smiley:

It sounds to me that you may need a business partner. (Not your millionaire friend–he may be vital as the financial guy, but he’s in the background).
You need somebody who will be there at the restaurant full-time,every day, to do the daily management. Somebody who will not only recognize mistakes, but fix them immdediately.Somebody to do the hiring and firing, advertising, handle complaints from customers, pay the bills, handle cash flow at the bank, keep the business license up to date, file forms with the government health dept, establish an “HR dept” and its policies (even if it’s just a set of rules posted on the bullietin board), schedule the work roster for the servers (while you do the same for the kitchen staff), somebody who will get on the phone and argue with suppliers for a quicker delivery when you are critically short of something, who will maintain a service contract with the computer technician who installed your cash registers, etc,etc.
You’re a cook, a good one. Stick with what you know you’re good at, and pay somebody else to do the rest.
Present it that way when you talk to your millionaire friend.

Rik,
Thanks for sharing your interesting life.

Question: Some of my favorite shows are “Restaurant Impossible” and “Kitchen Nightmares” with Gordon Ramsey. In both shows the idea is they come in and fix failing restaurants. Have you ever seen those shows and if so, how accurate do you think they are?

Rik,
Thanks for sharing your interesting life.

Question: Some of my favorite shows are “Restaurant Impossible” and “Kitchen Nightmares” with Gordon Ramsey. In both shows the idea is they come in and fix failing restaurants. Have you ever seen those shows and if so, how accurate do you think they are?

Haven’t watched them, sorry.
I received a sad message on Facebook from one of my former subordinates:

“I hate my job, and I miss you and I hate it
And I hate everything’s
It’s all changing
Hope all is well
I will be getting a new job”

I told her to come apply where I’m working now (back at my old job). I’ve already recommended her. She was one of my few “successes” as a manager (though more credit to her, because it was pure luck on my part). I lost several good servers right before I took over as manager — they wanted to make more money as caregivers — and I was basically forced to hire any warm body who could pass the drug test and background check, just so I could fill the necessary spots on the schedule. Unfortunately, this meant a bunch of teenaged girls with no work experience whatsoever, because those were the only applicants we could get.

One thing that this company hasn’t seemed to realize is that word gets around about bad employers, especially in a smaller city like mine. Literally, the only experienced server hired during my tenure as manager was hired mere days before I was fired, and she was from out of town (just moved here) so she hadn’t heard how bad this company is.

So anyway, most of those inexperienced teenagers I hired were worthless, but this one young lady was a real bright spot. She also had never had a job before, but she put her mind to it, worked hard, and did well. She rarely asked for days off (dear god, those other girls made scheduling a nightmare), she never called in “sick” or claiming a “family emergency”, she didn’t goof off, she always stepped up when I needed her to, and cheerfully did anything asked of her. She made my job a little bit easier.

Damn right I’m going to recommend her to anybody who asks.

Is this the same girl you were concerned had a crush on you? Tread very carefully when it comes to trying to bring her on where you are now, if so.

But, Dear Og, guess what I’m doing now.

I’m washing the fucking dishes.

But you know what? That’s what you do when you’re a “grownup” and you understand that you have to work to pay the bills. The chef here (the guy who also worked for that terrible company I just left) knows that I’m a capable cook. But when he interviewed me, I told him, “I’ll do the damned dishes if I have to. I need to fucking WORK”.

So I’ve spent two days now, working alongside this “kid” who was already there washing the dishes. sigh He’s a good kid, with a college education, and he’s only washing dishes until he can get his trip to China (where he wants to teach English) set up. I hope I didn’t embarrass him today.

See, he’s working in the dish pit where I spent 2-1/2 years washing up after huge groups of convention-goers. Where I earned two “Employee of the Month” awards, both by unanimous vote from management. And I was, after a day and a half, growing extremely bored working as his “backup”. Why was I bored? Well this big dish machine can handle six racks of dishes at a time, one after another. This kid was loading the racks, and I was unloading them when the came out the other end. But he was so fucking slow at loading the racks, that by the time he finished loading one rack, the previous rack was already coming out the other end of the machine. So I would be waiting an unreasonable length of time between racks to unload.

Today, he and I both took our lunch break, while there was a great big … multiple stacks of plates to wash. Like, in excess of 200 (small group). I finished eating and got back to work … and in the 10 minutes between me finishing eating and this kid finishing eating, I completely demolished those stacks of plates. He came back from his break, and the plates were coming out the other end of the machine almost faster than he could keep up.

Also, having spent so much time in that dish pit, these years ago, I grew intimately familiar with the machine. I’ve only been back for two days, but I’ve already identified and corrected three problems with that machine. The biggest problem was that the rinse at the end wasn’t happening. You know, the 180°F rinse cycle that is supposed to sanitize the dishes. All it took for me to notice the problem was the fact that I wasn’t burning my fingers on dishes that had just come out of the machine. Whoa, call Maintenance! But I know that machine. I identified the problem, found the cause, and corrected it myself. What was the cause? A fucking fork interfering with the switch that triggers the rinse cycle. I removed that fork, and the problem was solved. But the thing that boggled my mind was … that fork was old. Some time during the two years I was gone from this place, the Convention Center bought all-new flatware. But this fork I found was one of the old ones. Holy crap, that fork may have been fucking up the rinse cycle for almost two years!1

Seriously, you spend 2-1/2 years working with a machine … you get to know it.

No, different girl. The one you refer to got fired for insubordination.

She couldn’t get past the idea of people “telling her what to do”. Which is kind of a main feature of “having a job”.

The girl I’m recommending so highly … is like a daughter to me. She’s the same age as my oldest niece (and she knows my niece). And her dad is my age. She’s told me about her life, which has been … “interesting”. The people she calls Mom and Dad are her adoptive parents. Her bio father was an alcoholic, drug-addicted, abusive asshole. (Oddly, she hasn’t told me about her bio mother.) She was removed from her bio parents by CPS when she was 5 years old, and was eventually adopted by the people she now calls “Mom” and “Dad”. And they seem to have done a great job of raising her.

I told her once that I would like to meet her dad (her adoptive dad), and she asked me “why?” I just told her that I wanted to shake his hand.

Edit: I’m childless by choice, but I still treat this girl as if she were my daughter. It’s been kind of odd, given that we’ve known each other only about four months. But she’s a great kid, and deserves something awesome in her life. She already has awesome parents.