Don’t leave him yet. People can change and people can forgive. We got through the worst possible scenario (WAAAAAY worse than run-of-the-mill infidelity) and we’re tighter than we ever thought possible. Give it a chance.
Sorry he was such a schmuck. And I’d bitch-slap that receptionist at the doctor’s office.
And/or a new husband, IMO.
Hope it works out, all support either way.
They are transmitted by skin contact ONLY when the person is shedding virus. Which isn’t all of the time.
Some clarification: It is not a violation of HIPAA for her to ask what the visit is for. It is a violation to make you respond in such a way as to violate your privacy. Under the circumstances she should have either looked it up, or gotten close to you and said the question softly, prompting you to respond similarly.
The idea behind it is that only the patient and those people who require the info to treat/schedule/etc. the patient should have access to the patient’s medical info. When I went through training for where I worked, I was told that even mentioning the reason for the visit on an answering machine message could be bad. (Example given was a woman who schedules her first pre-natal visit and hasn’t broken the news of her pregnancy to her husband yet. Reminder message about “your first pre-natal visit” is left on her answering machine, husband checks it and gets confused.)
If you don’t feel like being confrontational, write it on a piece of paper or the back of a business card and hand it over, or lean in and say it softly.
The eyerolling was totally out of line, though.
I think my dad got public lice from a toilet, seat, according to my mom.
EEEEWWW…that’s a disturbing thought.
I’m just going say that this reminds of the Seinfeld episode where the woman claims she got an STD from sitting on a tractor.
That may be true, but since one can’t always tell when one’s partner is shedding virus, then IMO it’s a good idea to assume that this is always the case.
Definitely report Attitude Lady to whoever is in charge. Being rude is enough to report her for, in my opinion, but what she did goes far beyond that.
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OP, how can you be sure that the receptionist was lazy and could have just looked it up?
As previous posters have pointed out, there are issues of privacy popping up everywhere in a medical clinic. For that very reason, in many clinics the receptionist’s records deliberately do not include the reason for the appointment.
Having said that, a rectionist does needs to know whether the appointment is for a lab test, an x-ray or some other diagnostic, to drop off a specimen, or whether it requires a meeting with a doctor.
But, I agree that she should have asked what category your #^^#% husband’s fell into, not the exact reason.
But, mistakes happen, and I’m sorry for this little extra burden that was heaped on you in this tough time.
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i’m sorry.
sounds like the crappy ending to a crappy day.
you’ll know if the right thing to do is to stay or walk away.
but i admire you for trying to be the bigger person.
bitch slap the receptionist.
Guin:
Actually I believe those are called “private” lice… 
forbidden, good luck trying to work things out. People gave Hilary Clinton all kinds of grief for standing by her husband after the Lewinsky mess and I could never understand why people, women especially, were so angry with her for not dumping him. For pete’s sake, it’s her marriage and it should be her decision whether to end it or not. The criticism should be directed at him, not her. “Throw him out on his ear” is a lot easier said than done, esp. when you have a young baby to raise.
Hope it all works out for you and your family.
Thanks all for your concern. Sorry it’s taken so long to get back. To address a few things:
I will not stay in the marriage because of my son. I think I said that I would try for his sake. I’m a teacher and although I teach high schoolers (an altogether different thing from an infant) I’ve had classes on child development and I know that they know when things aren’t right. The most important thing to me is that he learn what a healthy, loving marriage looks like so he has good role models for husband- and fatherhood. I might as well see what I can work out with the husband I’ve got–since I do love my husband (kicking myself). IF that doesn’t work out, we’ll see. I really enjoy being married and I’d like to have a husband but I’m not (terribly) afraid to raise him alone (with joint custody). I confess it would be alot easier to walk away were it not for him. BUT, the lengths I’m willing to go to are not that long. We’re seeing a counselor (both together and seperately but the same counselor). He has also moved out so I can get my space. I think we’re doing the best we know to do for now. I know that couples do repair and recover…I just don’t know if we’ll be one of those couples. It will never be the way it was but maybe different can be better. We shall see…
As for being lazy or not? I suppose it’s possible she wasn’t. The thing that indicated to me that I was an “inconvenience” to her was the eyerolling and huffing about. So, even if she wasn’t being lazy, she was acting inappropriately and forgetting where her bread is butttered, so to speak.
PunditLisa, I actually was one of those women who said Hilary should not suffer one more day being married to Bill. Now, I agree with you: that’s easy to say when you haven’t been there. I appreciate the advice of all, I really do. I’ve just come to learn that adultery does not equal autodivorce.
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