Consulting an expert on idiocy is seldom helpful.
Yeah. Don’t be watching any X-Files.
Hint: don’t marry the one with the goatee.
If they have twins themselves too there definitely are higher odds of there being something wrong with the babies than non-twins. Cerebral palsy is four times more common in twins than in singletons, and then there are issues with identical twins like Twin-to-Twin transfusion (happens in 10-15% of identical twins) that can cause one or both babies to die, or the previously mentioned conjoining. Being premature is also a lot more common, and that too brings a host of issues with it that wouldn’t happen as often to a single baby.
Preeclampsia happens three times as often to the mother, too, so that’s another health issue. Gestational diabetes and placental abruption are both also more common in twin pregnancies, and these two affect the babies directly too.
Some of these things are pretty unlikely, but it’s not a dumb question for someone to ask.
What kinda guy settles for twins? Triplets is where it’s at.
but how, its their personal,i can only talk to my girl if possible not with another girl her twin sister.
am worried that i do not need a twins children anymore, in case if i get marry to this girl. i expect everything to be normal but genetics is to be considered. confused…
yes ofcourse, some one says its alright, others just say hey man its “twins”, do not fall down. some other say “get marry to both of them”. its crazy thought to get marry both twins girls… am not super hero…
its been said by some elders…either they are not doctors or married to twins. just news. they say there could be possibilities… being young like me i have to listen all of them…
But was the OP raped in the ass?
there is no rape victim here, are you in rape advisory board??? this is not xxx movie lyrics… you will be caught and kicked off black and blue… discussing on some realities…
do not rape anyone. your p**** will be stink of blood. no wild act, be human.
some bloody guy “CairoCarol” posted, asking was it rape! am not talking about rape, this is not xxx episode either. do not go wild always. understand.
ignore that shit
Sorry kiranlove. It’s a joke. We had a poster who asked if he was anally raped, and the thread kind of went like this:
OP: Was I anally raped?
SDMB: Probably not, no.
OP: But was I anally raped?
SDMB: Probably not, really, no.
OP: But I’m worried. Was I anally raped?
SDMB: Oh ferchrissake, NO.
This thread is reading kind of like this:
OP: Is marrying a twin going to cause me weird sexual problems with my wife?
SDMB: Probably not, no.
OP: But is marrying a twin going to cause me weird sexual problems with my wife?
SDMB: Probably not, really, no.
OP: But I’m worried. Is marrying a twin going to cause me weird sexual problems with my wife?
SDMB: Oh ferchrissake, NO.
See why I made the joke?
Do you have the performance enhancing drugs where you reside?
No you don’t.
You can ignore them. Because they don’t know what the hell they are talking about.
Here’s what you should worry about… that you’re easily led and don’t have sufficient strength of mind to seek out facts over old wives tales.
Between you and your bride to be, I worry more about what she’s likely to get stuck with. What do you think she would think of you if she knew you had these ridiculous ideas about her state of health and mind? Do you think she wants a husband who will judge her based on nonsense he heard from people who are about to become her relatives and will almost certainly continue to judge, meddle and spread ignorance on a subject they know nothing about?
But are they biological or cultural?
If you are old enough to be considering marriage, you should be old enough not to listen to people spouting nonsense, regardless of their age or position. They are not telling you “news,” they are passing along ignorant backward ideas.
As they are elders, you might do well to listen to them in the sense that you attend to what they are saying and treat them respectfully, but that doesn’t mean you should believe them when they say things that are absurd. You have the internet. When an elder tells you something that seems questionable, Google it, then read and evaluate.
People, this is India and this is an arranged marriage. Our OP has limited opportunities at best to talk to people about this. He can’t just ask her, not necessarily. It depends on how “arranged” it is, and really, how close they are. If they were arranged first and became friends after, then they may not really be comfortable enough to ask questions like “Are you ok with sex?”
Don’t tell him that he’s not mature enough to get married if he can’t ask those questions. In India, marriage comes first and all of that other crap second. If you don’t like it, well work on changing the culture. OP has a more immediate problem.
To kiranlove: In my experience, twins aren’t that different from others. They will be close to their sibling. They may have a chance of having twins. You might want to look at the family and see how many other sets of twins there are. This is a question you can ask the matchmaker or the family.
There should be no particular hangups about sex because she is a twin. Other reasons, who knows?
I suggest that maybe you sit down with her next time you see her and ask her “What’s it like to be a twin?” You might get some interesting answers.
Also, yes, do some research on twins. Look it up on the Internet. I am Indian and I can tell you, there’s a lot our elders don’t know but they don’t ever want to admit it so they will just say anything that comes into their head. If you ask too many questions, they say, “chup baccha” and that’s the end of it.
You say they are not married to twins nor are they doctors. In that case I would nod and smile and not really listen to what they say. Instead, I would talk to your future wife whenever you can! Ask her how close she is to her sister. How many times a day will she want to talk to her? Remember that just because she is close to her sister doesn’t mean she can’t be close to you, too. That closeness takes time to grow, so don’t rush it if immediately after the marriage she’s not your best friend. Try to understand that her twin has been in her life since the beginning and you are the new one, so try to be a family.
Above all good luck and mubarak ho!
Well, at least we have a good idea whose sock you are.