I said “sometimes”, because that’s true. The other times, she gets the check. I may start getting the check more often now because I just got a raise in the last six months and she’s expecting lower income for the rest of her graduate studies. But it’s mostly even.
Straight guys in relationships: do you cover the expenses of meals and other outings with your mate?
We’ve been married 34 years. We have a joint account, so the payee is whoever’s closest to the tab when the waiter leaves it. Since the missus keeps all the finances, I hand her the receipt if I “pay” it with my card.
I chose “sometimes”, since I couldn’t find a match to our situation.
Ms. DrumBum is the CFO and I always pay unless instructed otherwise.
I am curious about your “straight guys” qualifier. Is this not the case with gay men ?
We trade off, mostly without keeping track of who pays and who doesn’t (i.e., its informal). We do tend to take into account who is employed and who isn’t, and at what level and so on. My GFs all pay date expenses some of the time though.
I assume in such a relationship, the guy pays by default.