I am a straight male with no bi tendencies that is attracted to a lot of proffessions that are predominantly female. I am also attracted to very male dominated proffessions. I am usually more comfortable sitting around chatting with women than I am men. I have little to know sense of personnal fashion but very much enjoy buying clothes and helping women put together outfits. I like interior design and had a very successful business at one time. I love cooking, and would like to learn to sew. I could easily see myself in nursing or healthcare or doing social work. Besides that I am a very masculine male, I love getting dirty and tearing things apart and building things etc.
How many other 100% straight males can relate to this?
I don’t really have a preference when it comes to the company of men vs women. But I will say I feel very comfortable being the only guy in a group of women. Mainly because I know the conversation isn’t going to be dominated by sports. Which I’m not a fan of. I also notice when a woman’s purse goes well with the outfit she’s wearing. (Although, I never say anything about it.)
teacher and counselor, possibly child care worker would be good fields for me I think. I’ve had several counselors recommend counseling as a vocation, and I am good with watching kids.
I’m a heterosexual man, and I can relate to most of those. I would love to be a professional cook or interior designer or a wedding planner.
I would also love to be a makeup artist, although I wouldn’t necessarily tell anyone that.
I generally hate the company of men, for the same reason. I have absolutely no use for sports or hunting or cars or any of the other traditionally male pursuits. My wife works in a daycare, and I love stopping by and playing with the kids for a while. I don’t know if I would want to do it for a living, but I would do a good job if I did.
I’m a flaming heterosexual and elementary school librarian. Early in my career I think there were people who thought I might be gay, but I doubt it’s been assumed often the past 18 years since I’ve been married all that time. In our urban school system there seem to be more male librarians than there used to be.
I personally enjoyed working with a group of men much more than with women. As an engineer, this was usually the default - I was often the only woman on a design team. My husband is an engineer and when we’d go to social events at his work, I’d want to hang with the guys rather than sit with the wives and talk about babies and shopping. Seriously, that seemed to dominate their conversations. I was more interested in the project the guys were working on.
I’m a children’s librarian and for many years I was the only male in our 13 person department. Kinda liked it. I felt like I had my very own harem.
What I don’t like about working with all women is I have to constantly filter everything I say to guard against anything that might inadvertently offend one of them. I would describe the culture of my city as touchy and entitled, so it’s a very real possibility. Especially because I have a very sharp wit, and things get out of my mouth sometimes before I’ve run them through the filter. And I love to push the envelope.
Two weeks after I started working here, one of my coworkers went to my supervisor and said that while I hadn’t actually said anything offensive, it seemed like I was going to. That’s the atmosphere.
Although I love my female coleagues, I often wished over the years that a guy or two would come to our work unit so I would have someone to talk to without having to worry about damaging anyone’s sensitive psyche. Then in the last year we hired two men to the department, and they are both about as lame-assed as can be. One is a big proponent of chemtrails, and the other dresses like a clown on his way out to cruise the Castro District. I avoid them both.
I was the only male advertising writer for a department store, although they actually had several straight male art directors.
As a matter of fact, I’ve told one of my former co-workers to give the following eulogy at my funeral.
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** Kunilou** could write about fashion, he loved Broadway musicals and he could dish with the best of them. Who would’ve thought he was straight!
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One thing about female-dominated professions is that any that have been around for a while used to be male-dominated.
My paternal grandma used to grumble about my choice of an engineering field, until I asked “weren’t you one of the first five female accountants in Spain? And don’t business schools now have more skirts than the ladies’ section of a clothing store? What did people say back then about a ‘lady of good breeding’ having a job?” After that she became the greatest fan of my choice of fields.
Often the dominance changes by location (within culturally-similar countries, I’m not talking “UK vs Liberia”), time shifts are constantly happening.
My wife and I clean houses together every day and have for the past 14 years. People always assume that she started the business and handles it and I’m just the manpower behind some of it. Wrong. I started the business. I actually like to clean, but the reality is that I do struggle with the concept of being what is essentially a male “maid”, so I added more manly cleaning to our repertoire over the years like carpet cleaning and auto detailing. When people saw my wife detailing a car with me they thought it was really cool to see a lady detailing a car. When people see me cleaning a house as a man they think that it is odd, and not in a good way. The reality is that I’m quite good at what I do, and it doesn’t take long for people to realize that after we work for them. Cleaning allows me to express a bit of my perfectionism and OCD. It also allows me to be my introverted self and disappear into my work with my headphones on while listening to podcasts and books.
I don’t know if I’m qualified to answer because I’m pretty sure I’m not 100% straight (is anyone?), but certainly somewhere in the 90’s. Anyway, I can relate to the OP in all but the professions- I’ve never had any interest in what would be considered female-dominated professions, not because they’re female-dominated but because I just don’t have any interest in the work. I do prefer the company of women to men in most cases, however.
My dad recently got his van detailed. He said one of the guys on the crew was a perfectionist type who appeared to have OCD tendencies. Seems like that kind of activity (or house cleaning, as you describe) is a good fit for your personality.
I would make a horrible detailer or house cleaner. I like to get things into decent shape, and then I stop. Don’t ever hire me to detail your car.
Ha, one of my biggest problems has been learning to clean without going too far. In the end, people are only paying so much, so I can’t spend all day on something and end up in the poor house. My problem is the opposite of many people’s. It is a good fit for me, like you noted, but I still have to reign it in.
I won’t hire you to detail my car, but my wife is more like you, and she helps to balance me out. I’ve helped to raise her standards, and she’s helped me to be more realistic in our business. Life takes all types.
