Us shorties need a tallie to reach the damn shelves, that’s why. And someone we can find in a crowd without resorting to coded whistles.
Actually, according to the National Center for Health Statistics one out of every four women (over age 20) in the US is under 5’2". That’s not every woman, but it is a significant percentage.
Heh. My GF (five foot nothing) says that every other man she’s ever dated (or been married to–only one of those) has been much taller than her. Usually six feet or taller. She said that before she met me, she couldn’t even imagine dating somebody anywhere near her height. Now she’s got me–and I’m 5’4".
Guess who gets to keep her? 
I don’t understand that at all. I’m 5’2". All the guys I’ve dated have been over 6’. But that’s certainly not a conscious choice I’ve made. If I were in the dating market right now, I’d definitely consider a guy my own height. Then my neck wouldn’t hurt from kissing him. Heh.
jacquilynne: But the world needs more short people! Good things come in small packages and all that.
They have these devices called stepladders. They’re relatively inexpensive.
(I know; I just didn’t want to piss all over DogMom’s nice little anecdote)
Well, count me in as an eharmony success. We get married in four weeks. Needless to say I don’t think it is a scam. But it is worthwhile reading some of the background info on the matching process.
The personality test grades you on 29 different personality traits. For some of these traits you are more likely to relate well with someone who is similar to you. For other traits you are more likely to relate well with someone who is opposite and complements you. The evidence for this comes from research done on couples who have successful long-term marriages.
Eharmony filters out those people who, based on the best information they can obtain with their online test, are unlikely to be a good match for you. No one is pretending that either the test and profiling or the matching process is infallible. But in my case it got me communicating with people whom I would never have otherwise met.
There is of course no substitute for common sense, exercising your own personal judgement, taking the time to get to know someone well etc. And, yes, there are morons out there for whom you will need to exercise your own judgement. But eharmony provides a reasonable starting point. I do not think the basic premise is flawed.
My fiancee (5’11’’) and I (5’2") share the shelves, I get the low ones, he gets the high ones.
Also, when my only short (5’4") ex and I were walking down the street at night I felt like we had a “mug us and take our money” sign on our foreheads. :eek: All my tall guys make me feel like less of a target.
I know that! I have far more fun making him get down on all fours and standing on his back so I can reach the peanut butter. Men are great! Steppladders are boring and they don’t put themselves away afterwards.
eHarmony is craptastic. Most matching services are. eHarmony kept trying to match me up with single mothers. Yet my main stipuation was: No children!
Other services have had different problems, but none as bad as eHarmony for me.
I’ve given up on dating for now anyway… buying a Quadcab Dodge Dakota soon and I don’t have the patience to play the dating game.
Sounds like you want a security guard, not a husband.
I am an extremely short girl…I think I’m between 5’2" and 5’3" and with the except of two guys, most of my boyfriends have been between 5’4"/5’5"-5’7" which isn’t considered that tall. The main reason is when I’m slow dancing with someone I like to be able to snuggle into a part of their body relatively close to the head, as opposed to down around near their chest. And I say this as someone who trounces around in high heels…even with my tallest Aldo heels I’m still too tiny for dancing purposes when it comes to true giants.
I have never felt unsafe with a short guy…also most of the short guys I know go out of their way to be in great shape…even the non “built” ones have these wiry muscles.
I think a big part of the problem with a number of these “dating/matching types” is the complete and utter lack of knowledge by men as to the relative weights of women.
<disclaimer> I have never used a dating service of any type. I got lucky when I ran into my wife. </disclaimer>
Now, that said, I like my women with hips. Nice breeding hips. You know the kind… 
I’ve continually been amazed at the weights that the women I dated clocked in at. I know how big a guy is, as I have a context, but for women, I just can’t guess accurately.
5’2 and 145? Sounds REALLY good to me (now that I know the scales), if it’s in the right places. But I learned from an early age that all women should be 105 at that height. I’d personally (now that I’m less ignorant) worry about crushing a girl that size. I’d always be trying to get her to eat. But that’s just me.
My wife has put on some weight in the 5 years of marriage, putting her somewhat above that just prior to the current pregnancy. She won’t tell me the number, adding to my ignorance.
I’m 5’9 230# with a size 48 jacket (for the shoulders) and a 38" waist. I have to buy “athletic” cut suits, which always give me a chuckle. I’ve a few extra pounds, but I’m comfortable with that.
Just MHO.
Good luck, I’m SOOOOOOOO glad that I’m not “in the market” any more!
-Butler
I understand that the average height for women is 5’4".
Just a link to back up what featherlou said. I couldn’t believe it, so I had to google it. At 5’2" I feel pretty short; I thought the average was going to be around 5’6" or so.
Yeah … that too.
(Seriously, I meant “deflation” - i.e. real life large = match.com 'few extra pounds". My bad. :smack: )
It’s not restricted to Eharmony, or to men… I had a profile up on matchmaker and in it I very clearly stated that I was an athiest and I don’t want kids or to date anybody with kids. I’ve always been very up front about this on dating sites and in real life, because those are two big dealbreakers for a lot of women. You can’t miss it in my profile.
So, I get a letter from a lady who said she saw my profile and she wanted to get to know me, and asked me to check out her profile. I do. What do I see? She’s a devout, born-again Christian who is looking for a spiritual soulmate to help raise her two children.
I wrote her back a very polite message asking if she read my profile, and told her that I was a non-believer and was not looking to raise a family.
I’ve had others who didn’t read the fine print, but nothing to that extent. Women don’t seem to do the “carpet bombing” that guys do, but if she clicked on me by mistake she never owned up to it.
Anyway, don’t let it bug ya. Clueless people are everywhere!
EZ
Butler1850 hit it spot on with regards to this;
I laughed when I read this. Men, excuse the generalization but…, are so utterly clueless when it comes to a woman’s weight.
I can’t tell you how many times I used to see “weight 125 or below required” type things on men’s profiles, and I’d always get a chuckle out of it.
Dude, Elle McPherson weighs about 135!
