I’m going ballistic on some poor, shallow, self-centered female.
Look, I’m 5’6". Not that tall, and not that short. I’m not hideous looking, job/car/house and I make people laugh. In other words, I am completely date-able. I’m also silently self-conscious about my height (due to a lifetime of discrimination).
However, I have an inordinate number of potentials state, “I only date tall guys”.
It’s frustrating and annoying. Especially when it comes from a woman shorter than me (the latest was Five-Freakin’-Two!). I just don’t get it.
And before someone comes in with the “well, would you date a BBW”? In a short answer, yes! A few extra pounds (or some other physical characteristic that is ‘less than average’) equates with “shorter than average”.
There are girls out there who will date short guys. But I suppose it might take some time to find them, maybe. Bummer for you though.
If it helps, I do know several men around 5’ 6" tall and they seem to do OK dating-wise.
Are you willing to date women taller than you? I know there’s some awkwardness to get over there, but people do it.
These women are fools, fools! I say. I’m 5’6", my husband is 5’8", and we save all kinds of time and hassle by not having to adjust seats and mirrors in the car, and not having to find a car or furniture that fits two extremes of height. I’m not a high-heel wearer, but if I was, neither of us would care if I was the same height or taller then he is.
Part of me wants to say, “Be thankful for women who essentially tell you ‘I am shallow and superficial and you deserve much better than me’ right up front.”
But I do understand your frustration. I’m tall, but I was also almost completely bald by age 25. I felt the sting of rejection more than my share of times, and I know how you feel. Hang in there; there is somebody for you, and when you find her she’ll have been worth the wait.
Exactly what Diosa said. This is attraction, they’re not deliberately trying to put you down. You should be grateful they’re not stringing you along! I’m biracial, and 9/10 times I’m told - mostly unsolicited - that I’m gorgeous and unique looking. But 1/10 times I’ll be flat out told I look strange, weird, dark, or whatever.
A better question is - save for movie stars and hypothetical crushes - why on earth would you be attracted to someone who isn’t attracted to you?
Yup. On one hand, I *want * to get all up in arms with you, “Yeah, quit hatin’ on the short guys!” But then, Diosa is right- attraction knows no rules, and you’re just attracted to what you’re attracted to. If it makes you feel better, I do appreciate that good things come in small packages (not that you have a small package) now that I’m older and wiser.
I’ve been there. On one hand, I thought, “What a superficial @$%#@!” but on the other hand I think “Well, we all have our dealbreakers.” If that’s the ONLY stipulation a person has for a boyfriend, that’s pretty stupid, but I think it’s more likely that that’s just the one that’s easiest to note at first blush.
It’s interesting to compare the relative justifiability of “No short guys!” to “No fat chicks!” proclamations. Especially considering that between height and weight, only one of those measurements can be changed by the individual (barring bizarre, experimental surgical methods).
I sincerely doubt the OP walked up to a woman, asked her out, she turned up her nose and said, “I only date TALL men!” Then swiveled her barstool away. I suppose he’s welcome to correct me if this did happen.
Usually what I see is this:big group of friends is sitting around talking. The chicks start babbling about dating and what they’re into- “Oh, I like Latin men!” " I love guys with great abs!" “Really? I like my men with some meat on their bones! I like big bears!” Then, one says to the group, “I only date tall guys!” and all the others nod along in agreement. Without fail, the short guy in the group will act all ashamed and make some joke about how he didn’t want to date any of the chicks anyway.
And I just want to respond to this as a fat chick: plenty of guys aren’t attracted to me for the sole reason that I’m fat. So? I’m not attracted to plenty of guys for plenty of reasons. It happens. I guarantee you that some of the folks reading this thread are in no way attracted to fat people, just like some aren’t at all attracted to thin people.
I’m short, fat, 40 and poor. Dating a gorgeous 24-year-old. Happens.
The key is to stop trying to pick up women. Immerse yourself in healthy social interactions with people of similar interests. The dating will take care of itself.
You know, I swear I had something for this, but I just can’t think straight. I’m all muddled because my allergies are acting up, so I think I’ll just go to bed.
Girl needs something to get this guy to go away?
“I only date tall guys, mmmkay!”
They just didnt want you. My uninformed internet opinion says you are targeting rather shallow girls. Change that, instead of worrying about your height.
It’s a little more than just stating an attraction when they say “I only date tall guys.”
It’s like a guy saying, “I only date women with big tits.”
Sure, big tits are nice, but it’s pretty shallow to categorically rule out all other women as dating possibilities.
Peopl who have this kind of absolutist physical criteria, who basically only see dating partners as bodies and not people, are not likely to be capable of much in the way of deep relationships anyway, so I suppose it’s a good thing in a way. It’s saying, “hey, just a heads up, I’m vacuous and superficial.”
