Throw Your Arms Around Me by Hunters @ Collectors.
Who? They’re an Aussie pub band, so you probably haven’t heard of them, but this song is worth looking for.
I dreamed of you at night time
And I watched you in your sleep
I met you in high places
I touched your head and touched your feet
So if you disappear out of view
You know, I will never say goodbye
Though I try to forget it
You will make me call your name and I’ll shout it to the blue summer sky
Dar Williams has a couple softer break up songs that I kind of like. February and If I Wrote You are the ones that come to mind. Ani Difranco’s Untouchable Face is a good one, too.
Right now, I know exactly how you feel. I’d suggest “Sit and Listen to the Rain” by Whiskeytown ( I think someone might have mentioned Ryan Adams earlier; Whiskeytown is his old band), as it perfectly captures that stare-at-the-wall-for-days-in-emotionless-shock feeling that some people go through.
-Gonna ride down to the river, where it runs Gonna watch TV, and pray for decent reruns Sit around and dream away what I’ve become Used to feel so much, now I just feel dumh
Wow, I’d forgotten Mary Chapin Carpenter. And, for more Depressed Women of Country Music stuff, Nanci Griffith (Late Night Grand Hotel, Boots of Spanish Leather), Emmylou Harris (Blackhawk, Goodbye) and the Cowboy Junkies (the entire Trinity Sessions album, played over and over until memorized).
You may also want to try Jonatha Brooke’s Inconsolable. But only in case of emergency.
Sorry that you need the songs, but these are some ones I’ve sound useful.
Sad Song by The Velvet Underground (probably more appropriate than the Lou Reed remake).
Also by The Velvets, Femme Fatale, I Can’t Stand It, Beginning To See The Light (“Here we go again, I thought that you were my friend”).
Where Do We Go Now But Nowhere by Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds … in fact, about half of the Boatman’s Call album.
Some selections by Leonard Cohen: One Of Us Must Be Wrong Let’s Sing Another Song Boys Everybody Knows Diamonds in the Mine
Lee Hazlewood - Just For One Moment, The Night Before.
And for the harder side…
Blood & Fire by Type O-Negative (Bloody Kisses)
I Don’t Believe, Shame, What Do I Have To Do, and Why, all by Stabbing Westward (Wither, Blister, Burn, and Peel)
And whenever I’m really down I like to listen to In My World, by Anthrax (Persistence Of Time)
Love Stinks, by J. Geils Band
Love Hurts, by Nazareth
Angie, by the Rolling Stones
Are You Lonesome Tonight?, by Elvis
I Might Kill Myself If You Don’t Come Over Right Now, by my last girlfriend
Music by Elton John
Lyrics by Bernie Taupin
Available on the album Blue Moves
What have I got to do to make you love me
What have I got to do to make you care
What do I do when lightning strikes me
And I wake to find that you’re not there
What do I do to make you want me
What have I got to do to be heard
What do I say when it’s all over
And sorry seems to be the hardest word
Unbreak by Heart by Toni Braxton I Can’t Make You Love Me by Bonnie Raitt In the Ghetto by Elvis Presley (I know, I know; I can’t HELP IT. It has such a haunting melody!)
This one is for you only if you are a Mountain (Leslie West, Felix Pappalardi). It is called, oddly enough, For Yasgur’s Farm. It’s on their Climbing album.
A great album, if you understand Turkish, is Mavi, Mavi by Ibrahim Tatlises. Almost all of the album is the crying, you broke my heart stuff, so you wont need a translator and you can sulk to your hearts content
Another favorite one of mine is Chris Isaak’s Wicked Game.
The Trinity Session by the Cowboy Junkies - the entire CD especially, Blue Moon, Misguided Angel and I’m so Lonesome I Could Cry and besides it’s an excellent CD.
and when you’re starting to get over your ex…
Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered - Ella Fitzgerald’s cover