I don’t really know where to start with this, I’m just hoping for some input and to hear your experiences with “sleeping well” or “not sleeping well”.
My SO isn’t sleeping well, in a really… nebulous way. Or possibly not getting enough rest.
He will claim he “barely slept”, when he always falls asleep before I do and he is soundly asleep for hours before I fall asleep. Yet he is sure he barely slept. It’s sort of hard to interpret for me. The result is that he is always tired. He’s started going to bed at about 9 PM and gets up at 7.30, but he’s constantly too tired for things.
There are lots - I mean a shit ton - of things that contribute to this. Asthma, for one. It’s badly controlled, and something we’re working on with doctors. He’s just recovering from septoplasty to get rid of a persistent infection, which should hopefully start helping soon. Anyway, breathing is one problem.
Another thing might be depression. He’s been depressed before and been on SSRIs before. He’s been off the SSRIs for a few years now and is doing ok. I do ask, but there is honestly so much going health-wise that it’s difficult to gauge. He isn’t in the pits, at least. I just wonder if it might be affecting his sleep or sense of rested-ness.
Lately he’s been saying it’s the mattress, but I doubt it. It’s a new mattress, and perfectly fine. He can’t articulate what would be wrong with it. Since he can’t say what’s wrong, I doubt getting a different mattress would help. We tried tons before settling on this one, and even returned one we slept on for a month. If this isn’t comfortable we might spend the rest of our lives trying mattresses for a month, with no guarantee we’ll find something he likes. And anyway, when it isn’t the mattress it’s a noise coming from the boiler, or mosquitos, or a sound outside or the fact that he “just hates this house”, or the bed is too small. I think it’s just frustration at his tiredness, that he is trying to pin on something.
Anyway, it’s not so much a specific diagnosis of what it is with my SO that I’d like to hear (as that’s impossible anyway), but rather your experiences with the quality of your sleep.
Tl;dr: What does “sleeping well” mean to you? Do you ever “sleep badly” even though you do sleep? Do you feel like you don’t sleep, when others say you do? What things influenced how you have slept?