I remember in the game I played once…when you have the opportunity to ask ‘where are the children’…and the person responded with ‘This is the European version of the game’.
Fallout!
You must be married?
I was waiting for someone to make that joke, right from when I posted the OP 
The Dutch are actually quite a conservative lot. Quite a lot are religious. The main difference is that they seem to be a very pragmatic people. There are always going to be whores no matter what you do. The best way to deal with them is make it legal and control it. Make the customers and the girls as safe as possible and keep them in a defined area where you can go to if you so wish but it’s also easily avoidable. The same goes with their drug policies. Legal or not people are going to smoke dope. Deal with it in a sensible manner and take the mystique from it. Most Dutch people I’ve met don’t smoke a lot after their teens.
I lived in A’dam for a few months a while back and it was eye opening to say the least. I had all the same misconceptions you had. most of them were destroyed by the time I left.
You missed the part where I said she was my girlfriend. But our physical relationship is pretty typical for me (well, slightly better than usual). I don’t date women who are indifferent to sex.