What is a secret you have been harboring for a long time and wish you could tell?
Mine is I placed a child for adoption 19 years ago. And the other is I walked in on my neighbors having oral sex!
Wow, excellent timing on this, Isabelle!
I was just talking to my Best Friend this morning on the phone and she was relating how a mutual acquaintance of ours ‘finally got her revenge’ on the Other Woman her husband cheated on her with. This acquaintance chose to forgive the husband and stay together, but has spent over a year investigating the OW. The OW has now lost her job, and today got served with an eviction notice from her apartment building, all thanks to the aggreived wife. Well, okay, if she hadn’t been breaking the rules at work and the lease agreement, it wouldn’t have happened, of course. The scary thing to me was how normal everyone we know is treating the wife’s actions.
Sure, cheating is wrong, blah blah, we all get that. The husband broke his promise to her, the OW had no such promise to the wife. Misplaced anger to the extreme!
Now that I’ve rambled, the reason this resonated with me today is I’ve sort of been having an affair with the BF’s (married) brother for over a year. I know his wife and the marriage was dysfunctional long before anything ever happened with the brother and I, not that it justifies anything. I’ve listened to the Wife bitch about this man for almost 20 years, why they’re together is a mystery to everyone that knows them. That said, the Brother and I have no real interest in pursuing any sort of real relationship, I’m not interested in breaking up that unhappy home, he’s not interested in me that way either. It’s completely and utterly physical and that’s it.
Yes, it’s wrong, I know it’s wrong. It’d be wrong if they were the Cleavers and had the bestest relationship in the world, etc etc.
It’s been killing me for the past year that I can’t talk to my Best Friend about any of this and then today to hear her happily and enthusiastically endorsing revenge on the Other Woman freaked me right out.
Moderator’s note:
This really isn’t a poll or a light debate so it would fit better into MPSIMS. I’ll move it on over.
TVeblen,
for the SDMB
Wow, mine is no where as serious as yours.
My boss (ok technically he is my old boss) just asked me out. I have told a few people, but I can’t tell the people that would give the best insight into the situation.
Queen Tonya, do what is best for you. Of course, 99% of the time that is to get out of any relationship that is based on dishonesty, but is equally hard to accomplish.
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What is this - I don’t understand. I can get drunker than Pig Riley and I don’t feel any compunction to reveal my deepest, darkest secrets.
Is there some kind of swap value?
Is it like streaking? Run around naked in public?
Why would you post potentially damaging personal info on a public message board?*
All of that being said, Queen Tonya, it sounds like you’re playing with fire, for a minimal return. Plan your exit strategy now!
[sup]*Perhaps to force yourself to assess a situation you’ve been avoiding dealing with? Still, it’s a public message board.[/sup]
I watched someone commit a violent crime, and as much as I wanted to, I was too scared to do anything about it.
Eight years later, I found out someone I cared for had been a victim of that exact same type of crime.
I’ve never forgiven myself.
About two years ago I saw a highly technical local/regional investment scam by a known (to me) scam artist unfolding in real time and saw some acquaintenances being taken in by it. I warned two of them privately but they did not pay attention. After all who’s going to listen to a commercial real estate agent telling them that a super charged revolutionary PC architecture based on the Forth language was a likely crock of crap. I almost posted a link to his (now defunct) website here on the SDMB so the hardware geeks could laugh at the claims he was making for his hardware.
I gave up because didn’t want to get involved further and risk being sued by the scamster for slander (which is a threat he made to others in the past) . The entire thing collapsed 6 months later and the scamster ran out of town. A few people lost several hundred thousand dollars. If I had made enough noise I might have warned them off, or maybe not, but my desire to expose him was less than my fear of being legally entangled.
I almost forgot that there is one or two crumbs left on the internet about this guys hustle. To credential himself for the locals he had a website with several reviews of articles on he had planted in some PC and news mags to make his deal look official. IIRC there was an item in the local paper (they were hot on the scam after it collapsed) that he died of a heart attack about a year ago. Apparently he died in Tucson in June 2002.
Here is one from PC World.
A Supercomputer in Every Garage?
And here is a (slight) mention in the Washington Post when he was building the scam.
For the technically inclined here is an explanation of how his wonder machine works(ed) via the “Janus effect”.
In fourth grade I stole a length of yarn from the art room.
I waited until recess, when all the kids were outside. I crept back into the building and slinked my way through the hall to the art room, where a big box sat on the table at the front of the room, piled high with skeins of yarn. I grabbed a safety scissors from the cabinet and carefully, surgically, unraveled a ten or twelve inch length of orange yarn and cut it off. Mission accomplished, I secreted my guilty prize in my pocket and made a swift getaway, joining the other kids in the schoolyard like nothing had happened.
The perfect crime.
Ringo, I think some people are more compelled to talk about their lives than others. Keeping secrets can be an arduous task for those used to sharing everything else in their lives with whomever they wish. Y’know?
{{{ArrrMatey}}} I’m sorry. 
My Secret-of-the-Moment is that I’ve been trying desperately to avoid this thread so that I won’t post anything to it that an IRL friend could read.
And then this other time, I killed a guy.
I’m a convicted child molester.
I sexually harrassed my boss at a strip club.
Ok, we were both drunk and I grabbed his bony ass.
But no one else knows about it.
When I was little, I stole a gumball at the grocery store.
I shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die.
I once flipped out and killed people.
I put a chocolate and cream cake in the microwave for 7 minutes on full whack. I dunno, I just wanted to destroy something beautiful.
mmmmm … chocolate
There was this time… in band camp…
When I was about 8 or 9, I swiped a Baby Ruth candy bar from a drugstore up the street from where I lived. About 12 years later, they went out of business. Somehow, I felt responsible.
Yeah, I do guilt too easily…