If my friend were to tell me to call her after work cause she might want to get together, I would have called her exactly once, left a message “Hey, it’s me. Call me back if you want to go out!” and then gone to bed. That puts the impetus back on her to contact you. Once you called, you completed your obligation and could have gone to bed with no guilty feelings. Allowing her to ruin your entire evening because of a tenuous appointment was silly.
If people keep standing you up, and stealing from you (!) then I’d really do some soul searching as to why you keep attracting such people. People cannot use you as their doormat without your assistance. Unless you start believing that you’re worth more than that, then you’ll continue to attract the same type of people.
Though this seems to be climbing up out of the Pit, I appreciate the advice and commiseration. And maybe I’ll even see if I can work up some vitriol after I catch up on my sleep.
“Hey I wanna tell you something, okay? and I want to leave a message for you right now cause again it’s [time] here in [city] on [day] and once again I’ve made an ASS of myself waiting for you… I’m tired of playing this game with you. I’m leaving this message with you to tell you, you have INSULTED me for the last time. You have insulted me. You don’t have the brains or the decency as a human being… And when I come out there next week, I’m gonna fly out there for the day just to STRAIGHTEN YOU OUT on this issue! I’m going to let you know just how disappointed in you I am and how ANGRY I am with you that you’ve done this to me again… I’m going to come out there for the day and I’m going to straighten your ass out when I see you, do you understand me? I’m going to really make sure you get it, then I’m going to get on a plane, turn around and come home. So you better be ready [on some date] to meet with me so I can let you know just how I feel about what a rotten little PIG you really are. You are a rude, thoughtless little PIG, okay?”