You know, this is worth talking about. While I can totally cop to having an aggressive style, while I can admit that I can be an asshole from time to time, and while I will gladly admit that over the past, say, year my regard for the administration of the SDMB has been in decline, I have to say in reading what I have written here and arriving at “despise” is a bizarre leap.
And then, when I take strong exception to that characterization (I honestly can’t think of anyone on the planet Earth that I despise) this somehow proves that I am confrontational. So what should I have said? Golly gee wiz, I don’t feel hate in my loving heart and would love some clarification so that we can heal the breach between us? Honestly that is cheating. Sort of like the “when did you quit beating your wife?” question. My one regret is that I fell for such a cheap ploy.
Dude, your words carry a tone of disrespect, disapproval, distaste, and mockery. They were insulting. If Dex carried that over into “you despise me”, I think he has a right to- your very words carry that air.
If you want to say, “Well, I think you’re an ass, but I don’t despise you”, that’s fine- but getting all high and mighty about “what a fucking load of crap” just seems to indicate that you’re itching for a fight.
John Corrado, The tone of your post makes it clear that you hate me in an obsessive and almost stalkerish manner. I am also going to go ahead an make the leap in logic here and assume that you want to steal my identity so that you can start a sweat farm manufacturing urinal cake cozies. Further it is clear (based on the way that you are coming across) that you like to sodomize squirrels and then wear the cored out corpses as slippers while smearing K-Y Jelly on your testicles and yodeling. You really need to work on this.
My apologies for actually thinking you were sane and wanted to discuss the issue instead of making nasty rants and disingeniously hiding behing “Well, I wasn’t being mean about it.”
For what it’s worth, John Corrado hit it spot on. I read your line about “old guard moderators” as being disapporval, Binary… but perhaps I misread your tone, and perhaps you admire people whom you think can’t switch perspective, say “fuck you” a lot, and have no sense of even-handedness of consistency?
It’s so difficult with online writings to judge tone, and perhaps what I read as a pretty deep antagonism was, in fact, worshipful admiration.
C K Dexter Haven, Give me a break. There is a vast gulf between disapproval and despising. By golly, and gosh my post was intended to communicate disapproval, how we get to hate from that is still a mystery to me. This is similar to the “why do you hate America” tactic that we have seen bandied about any time someone criticizes the administration.
I don’t know what to tell you. It isn’t that I am unwilling to discuss the issue. Quite the contrary, actually. My post was meant to display wild leaps of logic in a ridiculous way and as soon as you take your dick out of that rodent’s ass and read the post again you might get that.
And my post was designed to explain to you that what you think is an wild leap of logic is something that other people see as an easy jump to make.
If you’re going to react to that by screaming, “No! You’re wrong! LALALALALALALA!!!”, fine, but don’t then bitch that no one seems to want to discuss things with you.
No, that was pretty funny. Scott Plaid has been flamed so thoroughly here before that watching people try to pound sense into your diamond-encased noggin over such a piddly (and poorly constructed) argument is like microwaving dinner. Dull and re-heated.
And if you’re going to sit there and pound your hammy little fingers away at the keyboard and bitch about “even-handedness” and the inflexible perspective of mods, you better be damn sure that you can be even-handed and flexible in your perspective. If you want a measured and logical discussion about your opinions of the administration first, calm the hell down and second, open your own mind to the opinions of the people in charge. You aren’t going to get very far if you talk to people like dogs and stand firm in being an insufferable prick.
Hung Mung, Here is the thing: Disrespect, mockery, and distaste that an administrator would find insulting are things that I have admitted to in this thread over and over again. I will also cop to being combative, no problem. Are these things that I could do better? Probably.
Where I have an issue is fathoming how this translates into some kind of hate on my part. It may be that I am not defining this particular word in the same way as others, but to me despising someone is not only a very strong statement, but it also implies some very personal relationship with the object of said hate. None of this is true at all.
So tell me, is this just a semantic issue? Are we going to use disapprove and despise as synonyms? I can try to make that adjustment, but as thing stands those are vastly different emotions.