My kids are still young, eight and six.
Today, we were driving by a wedding photographers and saw a bride. I asked my son, 6, if he knew who she was was. He said yes, and put his hands over his tummy in the universal sign of pregnancy. My daughter laughed at him, saying that she couldn’t be pregnant because they hadn’t had dinner yet.
Further inquiry yielded the sequence: a couple has a wedding reception (dinner) and then they have a baby. Somehow a few steps are missing, and we went through some of the misconceptions (ha) of how babies are made.
I grew up in a really screwed up family. Ultra-religious ,extremely conservative, and my mother would rather die then acknowledge that sex existed. At the same time, my father molested my sisters and my older brother molested me and our younger brother. After getting out of that fucked up family, a number of us went through some very slutty times.
All that as background, what is a healthy approach towards sexuality and talking to kids about it?
I’ve read some articles about how to be laid back, answering questions in an age-appropriate manner and such, but I would like to hear how people actually do it.