blowero, I am NOT saying that we females get to insult the males using dick and prick, but you males can’t use cunt. In fact you have somehow read the exact opposite of what my words actually said. I very clearly said that I DON’T use prick lightly, in fact I can think of 2 times in my 30 years I have used it, and it was to the guy’s face when I told them off for their asshatry. I’ve never used that word here. I can’t control others, who use prick/dick often, and lightly here in RL. I doubt they will be posting here on the SDMB, so it’s a non-issue.
I don’t know your age, but you might not have heard the word used at all really. It’s been within the past decade or so that people have become bold enough to utter it baldly. Before that it was one of those “mouthed” words around here. It was so terrible, that my peers would mouth it instead of say it baldly to describe a person.
My point about the “alpha females” was, that for some reason females who would not be considered aggressive IF they were males, are thought of as behaving aggressively when they assert themselves and move to do/get what they want. Yes, it’s sexist. Yes, it should have died out long ago. It hasn’t.
Please try to keep up, don’t disconnect halfway through the post. If you begin reading it, please pay attention and finish it. This is what it seems you are doing, because if you had contiuned reading the post you quoted you might not have misconstrued it, and seen “hypocrisy” where it doesn’t exist. Also, you are several posts behind, in that the one you just replied to is not my last post, and there have been other Dopers that posted too. I suggest you read them thoroughly, because I’m not asking the entire internet to conform. I’m just asking for consideration on these boards, and of course I’ll reciprocate. Is all of this finally clear to you now?
Yes tdn, the people who bought into the ploy weren’t too bright, and I don’t hang around with them much because of that incident. I don’t want them to turn on me. Those particular people aren’t considered “friends” they are acquaintances that a couple of my friends hang out with. My friends and I were hanging out with these people and with smearer. My friends went along with the smearer at first, until I got them in private. Sorry for the confusion on that.
Unfortunately, harsh and egoistic as it may sound I’m surrounded by “idiots”. The people in this town just aren’t bright at all. This does not mean some of them don’t have hearts of gold, it just means that I have to be wary when dealing with them so I don’t get “bitten” becuase they believe anything they are fed verbally, so can easily be turned against me.
I’ll say again, I am asking those (mostly UK) Dopers who use the word lightly, to ease up and be more careful when they come here to the SDMB, and if they ever meet me (and others, who also know that word as a slur) in person too. I am asking them to be kind, and to do this out of respect due to the fact that it greatly upsets more than one Doper when they hear it used in RL, and can be misconstrued and cause “bad vibes” if used too lightly here. This isn’t the first time this word has come up, and caused an uproar, I’m just asking that the next uproar be prevented by people on both sides showing courtesy and understanding.
You who use it lightly might forget and use it, and those of us who know the word as a terrible slur may end up being upset by it if we forget you didn’t mean it that way. (Of course both sides will be pretty sheepish once the misunderstanding is cleared up.) I’m not saying I’ll throw a hissy fit, I haven’t yet.
I came here to try to explain why the word is so offensive in some places. I believe I’ve “gotten through” to at least 2 people here, and that we have a reciprocal understanding to try not to offend each other here on the SDMB, or if we should ever meet at at a Dopefest. That’s all I was aiming for, a mutual understanding.
