I had two basic types before I hooked up with my current partner:
Crazy
Very religious
My first intense emotional connection was with a boy with psychosis and a slew of other psychological issues; the great unrequited love of my high school career was a mentally stable pastor’s son. I’m not even religious myself anymore and I still have a thing for the devout.
I don’t think I need to describe the dark side of a relationship with someone who’s severely mentally ill.
The longer I’m married the less I feel justified to post about any romantic ‘‘type’’ - but if my husband is a ‘‘type’’ his doesn’t really have much of a dark side. He is neither crazy nor religious. Just calm, competent, well-organized, fastidious, reasonable, and reliable. So I guess some would consider that boring. But I’m kind of a loon so I think I’m enough excitement for both of us.
I love independent, creative women who like to think for themselves rather than just go along with what other people expect.
It is thus not particularly surprising that my married life has involved more than its share of knock-down, drag-out arguments. I have to keep reminding myself, “If she were the sort of person who was inclined to say, ‘OK–if that’s how you want to handle this, we’ll do it your way,’ then I’d never have been interested in her.” It does get exhausting sometimes, though.
Nah-never been happier. As I intimated in my OP, I am perfectly fine by myself and have done specific work on myself to become that way; if I let these kinds of situations get me down (and cause me to indulge in whatever, tho in my case it’s never been worse than a tub of ice cream), I am giving them power over me. It’s thus more puzzling than heartbreaking that I keep seeming to meet these kinds of women. Since I now however am back on the market and am actively looking again, you might see a post or two of mine pop up in one of those dating threads.
