This is perhaps going to be sort of an unorthadox first post. I thought that when I started posting to this massage board, which has kept me both entertained and enthralled through most of my boring summer as an intern, it would be something small. Maybe in GQ or GD or IMHO. You know, leave a little something here and there to test the waters and get to know the people I’ve been lurking about with for the past two monthes.
But today I was told that a good friend of mine had been killed by a drunk driver while riding her bike in Ancorage, Alaska. After talking to a few other people who are mourning her loss with me, I decided that the only other people I wanted to share my grief with was all of you. I’m not sure why. I guess it’s because I know of no other place to scream my rage and vent my tears and no group of people who will understand more. I was here when Wally passed away and frankly, I have never seen anything like it. The love and good will that poured from my screen restored my faith in humanity. The affect that one man had on thousands of people all over the world humbled me beyond words.
So, I guess I want to say that Jesse was one of the most beautiful people I could ever hope to know. She made chainmail and let me borrow her handmade bodices. She wore crazy hats and didn’t care what the world thought. She took me to see my first Rocky Horror show and put me in fishnets and leather. She was unconventional and unequivically wonderful. I loved her, many people loved her and she will be sorely missed. I hope that even now, Wally is shaking her hand and calling her Putz. I think she’d like that.
Thank you for listening. I hope I can come back with something more cheerful to say.
I am sorry for you loss Megling. No loss is easy, but its harder when the death is so unexpected. My sympathies to you and those that were close to her.
Sometimes it seems that the most special people, the brightest stars, the kindest hearts, are the ones taken too soon.
Maybe it is because they pack a lifetime in such a short stay on earth, maybe it is because with all the bad shit in the world they are too good to stay here with us…
Maybe they are needed in heaven.
Who really knows. She sounds incredibly special, you were lucky to have known her. Hold on to that all your life.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend, Megling, but I’m glad you opened up and decided to share her with us for your first post.
I’m sure there will be many times ahead when there will something cheerful for you to talk about. We share a lot of things here, as you know, pain being one of them, and I for one am just as happy to offer you my shoulder to cry on as I would be laugh at a silly story you had to share.
I’m looking forward to one of those silly stories.
You have my sincerest condolences and my most hearty welcome.
Oh Megling, how terrible! My heart goes out to you and your friends’ family and loved ones. Death is often difficult to accept, particularly when comes about in this manner. I hope that drunk driver gets the book thrown at him or her.
I’m sorry this had to be your first post - I hope you can come back later when the pain is not so sharp and tell us more about your friend as well as yourself.
I am sorry for your loss. But if you are a believer in an afterlife…she is in a better place. Our hearts go out to you. Let her live forever in your thoughts and actions.
In the initial thread about Wally’s death, several posters indicated they had not known Wally at all, but just reading the responses other posters had to his passing made them cry.
This is proof of that. I’m genuinely sorry for your loss.
And I want to take this opportunity to say what I had been planning to say for a loooong time . . .
Thank you all for existing. You’re all special people, whether you admit it or realize it.
I’m sorry for the loss of your friend, Megling. Words are never adequate for something like this, so I’ll spare you mine, except to offer you my deepest sympathy.
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. From reading your post, she was a special person. And it seems that she has left you with some wonderful memories that you will cherish for life. She was also lucky to have a friend such as yourself. I’m sure she would want you to carry on and have a laugh or two for her sake.
Losing someone is never easy, especially the final loss. As you mourn the loss of your friend, remember that she’s just a thought and smile away.
Megling, it sounds like one of the bright people in the world has left us. It saddens me that this happens every day without letting the rest of us know they are out there before they go. And how tragic the loss is for you, because you had that chance to have her as a friend. Welcome to the SDMB, and thank you for sharing her with us. My thoughts are with you.
There is little I can add that hasn’t already been said. I believe that a person’s true worth is in his or her friends, and your friend obviously chose her companions well.
Remember her well and know that you made her brief time in this world a happier place for her.
Welcome to the board, and here’s hoping for a long stay, with happier occasions than the present situation.
I can’t thank you enough for all of your kind words. They mean more than you can know. Yesterday, I was watching the news and I thought, “There’s not going to be anything on here about Jesse. No one’s going to miss her who didn’t know her. No one’s even going to know she’s gone,” and that hurt. I wanted everyone to know that the world lost someone special. Somehow, it’s made me feel better to share with all of you, whom I’ve never met, because at least there are some people now who know she lived and care that she died.
And now I have to go try and plan a Viking themed party, because we’re pretty sure she’s in Valhalla trying to steal Thor’s hammer. Or at least one of those hats with the horns on it
::Trying to think of some kind of Viking battle cry and failing miserably::
I think that most of the people here have a best friend or two. We can certainly share in you grief and sense of loss.
I’m glad that you shared your thoughts with us here, please join in more often. We’ll help toast to Jesse in Valhalla!
The cynic in me says to make no friends and feel no pain of loss. It is hardly a way to live though. I feel your pain, Megling. As Maude would say from Harold and Maude, “go out and love some more.” You do the best justice to your friend’s memory by showing her that you can be happy and enjoy life and spread news of how she was when she was alive.
