That is a damn sexy thing to say. I suggest you use it on your guy.
No worries, man. You are not my SO, who thankfully has the opposite opinion of vagina.
“I am so glad you like the feel of my vagina, and I’m totally okay with the fact that you think it looks like a gaping wound and it grosses you the fuck out to look at it”, said No One, Ever.
I find the negative feelings associated with the appearance of genitals kind of dismaying. I mean, I think I understand. There can be a lack of symmetry, the area can be startling different from that which is visible above the neckline… it’s mysterious and in the case of opposite sex relations so incredibly alien from one’s own equipment. And you don’t have to look closely; lights out is an acceptable way for an inhibited couple to line them up. A body could use another merely for friction in order to get the job done without considering the appearance, the texture, the uniqueness at all. Plus, your mom or dad probably has one of those things, and if you are the type who is weirded out by a parent’s sexuality, you may have a bit of trouble disassociating a lover’s genitalia from a family member’s. Sex and all things related can be a minefield of peculiar and confusing signals if you have even the slightest hang-ups.
But think of it this way. You could consider clinical photos of a penis or a vagina, say, in a medical context: all pale and shrunken; vulnerable and ineffective. Or, you could crack open an adult mag or video and see one or both in a state of full on excitement, and know that all those swollen, bright pink or reddish parts mean the wielder is very, very happy or about to be. A vagina or penis in a doctor’s office is merely a body part which may or may not need examining along with the throat, the ears, the stomach. A vagina or penis in a bedroom, especially when it belongs to someone whose excitement you are very invested in is a different animal altogether. That unfamiliar part is the source of your lover’s pleasure, and you, as the viewer, is in a unique and privileged position to explore, to give and take an incredible experience. If you’re all in, that is. And when you are terribly fascinated by or in love with the person attached, that part in an excited state is a thing of joy and beauty. How can it be anything else?
Well, he DID indicate that he finds the anus rather attractive.
If there’s anything “ugly” about human beings, it’s that we’re kind of balding but not quite there. So we’re in this inbetween awkward condition of being kinda hairy but not all that hairy. It’s weird, I feel. I’d be fine if humans were more like whales with essentially no body hair at all, or completely covered in “fur” like most mammals. So I guess I’m voting for “skin” as a whole, as the worst part of the human body.
That’s one perspective, it’s yours, and I respect that. Mine is more utilitarian. Genitalia are tools with which to accomplish a task, whether that is to impregnate, to provide and receive pleasure, or a combination of those. My feeling about the tool doesn’t change based upon its state, or its bearer’s intent. Speaking for myself, one can certainly be into the physicality of the love-making act without being visually enamoured with genitalia.
Potentially relevant disclosure: I’m a medical professional.
Serious question: do you fake it so your partner doesn’t know you’re ‘squicked’ by looking at her vulva? Or do you just try to avoid glimpsing it all together?
I don’t think you’re the only one, lots of people are ‘squicked’ by various body parts. However my boyfriend tends toward the other side of the spectrum; that is, Obsessive Vagina Enthusiasts. He can’t seem to get enough of the thing in every possible way, he’s spent hours staring at it, at this point.
Yours, in my experience, is an uncommon view if not downright sterile. Poems, sonnets, odes, songs have been written about vagina, wars waged and lost over those velvety folds since time immemorial. Dick, too, as evidenced by every phallic monument everywhere. Fortunately for me, I’ve never loved a man who was so dispassionate and detached.
Wow, familiarity really does breeds contempt.
I did? If so I lied, anuses aren’t wholly unattractive, assuming they’re clean at least, but they’re kind of just… there. They don’t have the weirdness of genitals, they just look like skin to me. I’m attracted to people in a more macro sense, I prefer full body shots of people, probably the most specific feature I like is “faces”, but really as far as sexual attraction goes it’s a whole package thing – I’m not particularly attracted to nice butts or good legs or sweet back dimples or a cute smile, I just kind of like a set of features; specific features tend to either do nothing for me or slightly squick me. If you ask me what I like about a particular attractive person it’s not “cute nose” or “nice legs” so much as “those particular legs go with her torso”, things tend to only be attractive to me in aggregate, and usually hard to articulate ways.
Edit: Sorry, I got confused. Elizabeth’s post kind of directly responded to both the OP and me at the same time, I forgot the OP said they liked anuses. I wasn’t sure which part astorian was responding to until I went back and looked.
Heh. No, I don’t fake it. 
I think some here may have the wrong impression. I don’t dislike sex. My wife is very happy with our sex life, as am I, and to this day I am very appreciative that she is still willing, and sometimes eager, to engage with me in this way. I simply don’t have much of an appreciation for the look of the female sex organ, although I do marvel at its construction.
It’s really not the issue some perceive it to be. Whenever I’m down there doing my business, my eyes are closed anyway. Aren’t most guy’s?
Not contempt, although possibly a visual antipathy.
everyone likes to think they’re unique and special, even over the most commonplace, mundane, or pointless things.
But, judging from your catchphrase, you do like the smell, right?
Heheh. Very good. You win one internet.
I cant Believe I missed the Bacon Lube! I know its not something that you can have every day; people say you can’t have it too often or you’ll just seize-up and die. But for the rest of the day I’m going to be opening threads & hoping:
Bacon Lube…!?
Maybe…?
Maybe…?
Not in my experience, which perhaps led to my confusion.
As a straight woman, I’m not bothered at all. As long as he doesn’t tell me he’s squicked out by it, doesn’t avoid it, throw up on it, lovingly whispers to it frequently and drills for oil routinely, acts like he’s a fan, then it’s all good. I’m hugely turned on by penii, but if I never had to see another swinging set of balls again it’d be too soon. Because they’re gross and wrinkly and sometimes hairy. Yuck. Yet I’ll do all the fun things I can to them with gusto to make my partner happy. Tis the right thing to do. Just means I ain’t thrilled looking at them. Shrug.
Thus spaketh Bette Midler:
“If God didn’t intend for man to eat pussy, why did He make it look so much like a taco?”
Discuss.