Yes, you have to tell them something; a quarter of a mile is not that far.
You have to tell them that he was recently released from prison, and the children should be supervised closely until he leaves.
No, much younger is not at all the same as prepubescent.
You’re right about the last part.
I agree, Capt Kirk. It kinda broke my heart because he is really a hard worker. He actually just showed up about 10 minutes ago to drop off some materials. He is over there working right now in the heat. Sigh…
RickJay, I believe you are right. I have quite a bit more work and am leaning more and more towards employing him. None of my rentals are near schools or playgrounds, so I should be alright.
Please do.
And at the end, do let him know that you employed him despite finding out these things. It may give him some more hope.
It doesn’t. It just prohibits them from working for me ever again.
To the OP, I say simply DTMFA. Fuck him.
You think I should bring it up?
Ask yourself if bringing it up serves any constructive purpose.
If it’s relevant - say, he asks why you won’t hire him for a specific purpose and the reason is proximity to a place where there are children then I’d be honest with him about not hiring because you are aware of his past and don’t feel comfortable putting him in close proximity to kids. Just keep it factual, he’ll understand, and if he’s actively trying to keep out of trouble he might even thank you for helping him adhere to any restrictions he may have (or he might be pissed at missing out on the opportunity, but then remind him you’ve hired him for other work where that is not an issue and you’re open to employing him in the future where it is not an issue).
If the matter isn’t relevant to the job or the conversation at hand then why bring it up?
If he brings it up, or it drops in conversation, say you’re aware of his past problems and leave it at that. No need to dwell on it. No need to be emotional. I am certain he is painfully aware of how society regards his past actions.
Well put, Broomstick.
No. That’d be patronizing.
It’s been pointed out already, but sexual contact =/= rape. In Missouri, sexual contact is:
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any touching of another person with the genitals or any touching of the genitals or anus of another person, or the breast of a female person, or such touching through the clothing, for the purpose of arousing or gratifying sexual desire of any person.
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Not that fondling a 6 year old isn’t a terrible crime, just that he probably didn’t do what he’s being accused of here. Anyway, it was 22 years ago. At some point, either his debt to society is paid or he should have been executed.
No. I think you should treat him like you would any other handyman.
Would you trust this man if you were the six year old, violated by a teenager old enough to drive, and nearly old enough to serve? Would you continue to allow him in your home if the six year old were your child? I’m all about forget and forgive for most transgressions, but whatever he did to a six year kid that warranted jail time would be difficult for me to put aside. And what offense has he committed recently that he has been paroled for? And he cracks jokes casually about being on parole? For those shouting live and let live, what is it about these circumstances that inspires a second chance?
No, for a number of noble reasons, like showing compassion and forgiveness and non-patronizingness, and treating everyone like a human being.
And one cowardly one: do you really want to give him a reason to be angry with you?
He hasn’t committed any offense recently that he has been paroled for.
I don’t think it is necessarily a bad idea. He might be relieved to have it out in the open. And whatever he did, I am sure it wasn’t good but it might no be as bad as what you can imagine. He might want an opportunity to explain himself.
I remember reading on these boards several years ago about a guy who grabbed the arm of a 14 year old girl after she ran in front of his car and for that had to register as a sex offender. That always makes me wonder what the full story is when I hear someone is a registered sex offender.
He’s a convicted felon. They all have “explanations”. Maybe this guy is one of the few that will be telling the truth, but the OP will have no way of knowing.
I think he is on parole for failure to pay child support, at least that is what he said. I don’t want to patronize him and I’ve been very nice to him. We even made some supper for him last night after he had worked all day at another job and only had rice to eat. I honestly believe in forgiveness and that people can change. But, you know how it is with offenses against children, especially sexually. It seems that a lot of those urges are beyond that individuals control, which makes it particularly scary and alarming.
Exactly. That is why I think that me bringing it up to him would be rather counter-productive. You know?
Are you sure? Seems like that is what he was admitting to when he said “At least you aren’t on parole.”
You said his girlfriend was delinquent on support, and he said “at least you aren’t on parole.” You could parse that as him being on parole for nonsupport, but it’s not the most obvious reference (at least to me).
I guess it would depend on whether he put the emphasis on “you”.