Oh, he says I can discipline her any way I want. Problem is, he doesn’t back me up so the discipline is pointless.
We just had a knock down, drag out over it. He actually said about the party thing (when he gave me the wrong directions and I brought her home and made him take her) that because I didn’t call the party, get the right directions and take her and instead, brought her home so he had to take her, I was inconviencing him. Yeah, you read me right.
Didn’t help that during the fight the ex called to yell at him because apparently the child told her on the phone today (I didn’t realize she spoke with her) that he made her apologize to me last weekend and now she was upset (don’t ask). She was yelling “she doesn’t have to apologize to ANYONE!” So that was just what he needed to get away with another “You see what I deal with?? What’s the point of discipline??”
So he again painted me as the bad guy, with all the “if you don’t want to help out just say so!” and “what’s the big deal, you’re just studying anyway, put in a movie or something!” and “you knew I had a child when we got together and when we moved in together…” stuff.
So we were yelling and screaming and she was upstairs and heard everything and it was just a big old mess. I talked to her though and told her everyone fights and she asked what we were fighting about and I told her I wanted daddy home more to spend more time with us and blah blah. It was weird, she almost seemed happy that we were fighting. My SO and his ex used to fight like cats and dogs almost daily so I guess she’s used to it. At least we’ll make her mother’s day (she’ll be THRILLED to know we were fighting).
I agree with you Zipper, it’s got to be rough for her. Her grandparents do spend a lot of time with her, when daddy isn’t pawning her off on me, he’s pawning her off on his folks and his ex’s folks take her on vacations all the time and spend tons of time with her. The girl is not wanting for love, that’s for sure.