May I butt in here to say that I like the look of a young woman in jeans and sneakers? Up to a certain age, then yeah, it starts to look like that “soccer mom” thing. But otherwise, I like it. A lot. Rowr.
Sadly, I was the dumpee.
I was dumped for not liking Mexican food, for smoking (from a guy who used to bum my cigs when we were out clubbing) and for not putting out. (last one not lame).
and I wear jeans and sneakers every day-I choose comfort over style to go to the grocery store etc. Now, if I am going out for coffee or downtown or a movie…that’s different.
Aid for older people like me: Chuck Taylor’s=Converse HighTops (canvas).
I have “dumped” women 3 times for what others might feel were silly reasons.
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Found out she was married. (I was gonna tell you, honest) It sure explained her odd schedule and lack of a home phone number.
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Chain smoker. 24/7. bleh. Hot in every other way, but cig breath first thing in the morning was horrible.
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Asked if I would consider a 3 way. Me, her, and him. Not my style.
[hijack] Am I alone in getting a little light-headed in the rolled up sleeve look? [/hijack]
That would be by that look. Sorry, it was the forearms, they got me all mixed up.
I’m pretty tolerant - it’s hard for me to find guys I like, so I’ve dated a lot of guys that had huge deal breakers for most women.
However, I did break up with one guy because he kept trying to get me to dress differently than how I prefer. I used to be a huge tomboy and, although I enjoy expressing my girly side once in a while now, I still don’t wear a lot of stuff that’s girly. Heels are the primary example, I’ll wear them once in a while but I refuse to wear them everyday. It mostly just struck me as controlling behavior which is the ultimate turn off for me.
Once, I opted out of a 4th date with a perfectly nice, attractive guy because he went to bed and got up early during the week, and liked to keep to the same schedule on weekends. Nothing wrong with that in principle, but I just couldn’t take always being home by 10pm on Friday/Saturday nights!
That’s the lamest reason I can think of. All of the other breakups/refusals to date were based on good reasons … like the guy whose brother was a police sergeant (or something) in NJ, and flashed his bro’s business card when he got pulled over for speeding in VA … and the boyfriend who kept misplacing his penis in other women’s vaginas… 
Oh, and count me among the “who knew that jeans + sneakers were wrong??” folks: if I’m wearing jeans and a t-shirt or sweatshirt, there are either sneakers or Birkenstocks on my feet (but jeans + other tops = other footwear). No one has ever accused me of looking like a soccer mom. 
Hell, I would dumped your ass, I mean no 3-way.
Oh, wait a minute – I’m gay, you’re not.
Never mind!
He used the word “whatever” too much.
I’ve used the word “whatever” myself. I use it mostly when I want to say, “enough already” or, “f**k off” but need a more acceptable way to say it at the moment. But I use it sparingly.
I dumped a guy because he overused the word “whatever”. His use of this word was so excessive it drove me batshit.
After a month or so I actually started keeping count of how many times he said “whatever” in a conversation. By the end of one evening out (and a movie was involved - two full hours in which we hadn’t said a word!) I’d counted over fifty instances in which he’d inserted “whatever” into the conversation, or used it to end a sentence.
It used to aggravate me to no end. I found myself focusing not really on what he was saying, but on whether he was going to say “whatever” again. I’d grit my teeth every time I heard it after about 4-5 weeks of dating.
After about two months I couldn’t stand it anymore and I broke it off. 
He was a great guy, but it just drove me nuts.
How’s that for lame? :rolleyes:
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Who would consider that a silly reason?
Was that a whoosh I just heard over my head? Please tell me it was a whoosh
He dissed J-Lo, so I dumped him.
Yep, pretty lame, although it was more of a “how can you be this intense about such a stupid topic” thing. Lameness
I had a guy dump me because of:
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[li]My taste in music[/li][li]I wouldn’t smoke dope with him[/li][li]I was going to college[/li][/ol]
And, of all things, he was at sea at the time. * I* got the Dear Jane letter…
I think where this all changed is when jeans became something other than strictly “work” or “play” clothing. Of course, when you’re working…like hammering shingles on the roof or hanging drywall, you should wear the appropriate shoes for the job. Same with yardwork and volleyball games or walking through Millenium Park all day. But jeans are now considered casual evening wear, officewear, and anything other purpose in addition to “work” or “Play”. Thus, the appropriate shoes are needed.
No whoosh. Maybe TMI, but I probably would have had a relationship with her despite her marital situation. It was her lying about it that freaked me out.
I dumped two different girls because both of them apparantly didn’t like my penis as much as some other guy’s. Yeah, I know, a totally lame reason.
This is lame. Really, really lame. And I’m sorry for sharing it because of the lameness.
I was kind-of seeing this guy for a couple weeks. Greatest guy ever, we had the same values and beliefs, both loved Subway and chinese food, and he was super-rich. Like, loaded to the max. He had a motorcycle and four vehicles, one of which was an Escalade and one of which was a brand-new Hummer. And he was only 24. Also we were in the same circle of friends which was cool.
But his nose was kinda-sorta too big, and when I got real close to his face, like to kiss him, all I could notice was all the little pores on his nose and how visible they were. And I’d just be thinking, “Ick, he has giant pores.”
And then we stopped talking, and I didn’t really mind because he had big pores anyway and I just couldn’t stop thinking about it.
Well if the man is playing Civ2 then there is good reason for unkempt laundrey.
Then why do you ask on the first date?
See, and I thought it was their sickening foamie pop can cozies that are made to look like little lime green and orange t-shirts. “Oh, how cute, your beverage has a wardrobe.”
I have to second that emotion - why do you pressure us by saying you’re not sure you want to go out w/ us again if we don’t ‘prove there’s chemistry’, then refuse to date us again because we did?
'Cause that happened to a friend of mine.
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To respond to the OP, I once refused a 2nd date because during a discussion of Monty Python, my date said, “Yeah, I think he’s great.”