What were the most frequent myths you have been told when you first started college/university?
Mine were as follows…
*All the girls what to immediately have sex with you…
*Great classes no pressure
*(The biggest one of them all) Make great new friends!
*End to bullying.
*lots of partying
*End to boredom!
The one thing that has happened is that I had made at least one or two genuine friends and thats about it. College life prety much sucks.Full stop.
That I’d be able to get a job right after I graduated.
If your roommate dies, you get automatic 4.0 for the semester.
The library is sinking because when they designed it, the architects didn’t take into account the weight of the books.
Hmm, I dunno. I’m at college now and I broke a ten month sex drought on the my fourth day. I’ve also made a lot of friends including a couple whom I’ll probably remain friends with for many years after college. There are tons of parties. Granted, a great many of them suck, but they’re still parties. The classes are, on the whole less stressful than the classes I used to take in high school. The only one your ‘myths’ I can identify with is the boredom one, and I solved that by joining a few clubs. It’s all what you make of it.
LMAO@Rasa! 
I have to agree, college is what you make of it. It’s a lot easier to make friends in college than later in life… hell, the few people I know in this town I met through a college group that they’re in.
Myths:
Well, they told me the top floor of the English department was haunted, and if you stayed there late enough at night the ghost would throw books at you. I spent four years trying to provoke her and didn’t get hit with one damn book.
Hmm, I guess that isn’t quite what you mean, is it?
Seriously, Ryan_Liam, there are people who aren’t meant to go to college, and there are people who will eventually do just fine in college but aren’t ready for it when they’re eighteen. There’s no shame in falling into either of those categories, and no shame in taking some time off until you figure out where you do belong. If you’re not enjoying it, don’t force it.
All of these were true, at least in my case.
Same here. Also the “loads of sex” thing.
Oh, yeah…and OUR library really WAS sinking, too.
I’ll never forget the epiphany I had after my first week of college…they are the same fucknuggets who were in high school just six months ago. They aren’t mature.
Of course, after a few of them failed their classes and got yelled at by mommy and daddy, they tend to get their shit together.
I disagree. If you’re clueless about why you’re in school, or what you want to study, it’s an okay thing to step back for a while and return later when you made some decisions about your future.
But dropping out because you don’t enjoy it is not a good move. One of life major (and unpleasant) lessons on the road to adulthood is that there’s all kinds of crap you have to do or put up with that you don’t enjoy.
I haven’t been smooth or anything of that nature in the least, but I expected to find a girlfriend by now. And here I am essentially halfway through my junior year with no relationships with the opposite sex that I can cultivate.
This in itself has made college suck for me, but that’s just because I’ve been focusing on it.
This is vague. Are just the classes you want to take not what you expected? Or are they in general just lackluster e.g. the professors don’t care?
Yeah, well… this IS a major determinant of what you’ll do for the rest of your life. I’d say that pressure is inherent.
From my experience, this can just take a while. What year are you?
I suspect this may have something to do with how easy it is to get into a particular university. If it’s one where their admissions standards aren’t very rigorous, you can expect that people who aren’t going to devote much of their effort and attention to studying are going to get in. It stands to reason that such people haven’t completely grown up, as it were, so they’ll stick with acting the same childish way that suited them in high school and further back where they could screw around, act like dicks, and still get by.
But then, where do you go to school? And what would you classify as bullying?
Depends on the school, and even then the quality of the partying can vary.
I go to Yale. Yeah, we have keggers and stuff and lots of them. But the parties with bars rarely last for more than two hours or so, and that’s on a GOOD day. On top of that, we don’t have a bonfire like Texas A&M does.
Become a nerd and just devote yourself to studying. Then it won’t be so boring any more once you’re busy.
Hell, that’s what you’re there for, isn’t it? Apart from the social aspects, it IS the ultimate reason for going to college.
How long have you been at school? Your answer to this question will leave open or shut down everything I’ve said here, so you may not need to worry.
I went to a place where they had an amazing reputation for math. That’s what I went there for (nevermind that I’m now a journalism grad student in another state); their reputation was amazing.
Only after I got there did I realize that their reputation was the work of one professor in their department. This one professor who took ambitious students under his wing and made them successful. I never had a class with him, and every other professor I had was horrible; there was even one instance where a kid stood up in math class and cursed out one of these lesser professors (and frankly the professor deserved it at that point).
That all frats at Dartmouth are animal houses.
That the administration listens to the students.
Well, the first wasn’t entirely there, though I think I missed a few opportunities. The second is much more the case. The third … oh yes. Fourth very much so. The weekends here start on thursday after your last class (FRIDAY class? Whazzat?;)). And there’s internet access in the dorms and such to prevent boredom;)
law school is much more serious - the partying falls right off
All I know is, I taxed my liver way more than my brain during law school…
As for the rest, I found it was a matter of choice - I could party if I wanted to, be bored if I wanted to; I won’t pull on the rose-colored shades and say that I could get laid if I wanted to, but I did meet my fiancee in school, as well as most of the better friends I still have.
It’s no more or less than what you make it.
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I’ll second that one! A friend of mine had loads of problems with a faculty member at my community college and the administration did nothing at all, even accusing her of making stuff up or being mistaken.
Personally, I’m leaving my school and taking a year or two off. One of my reasons is because I’m having a bad time, but also because I’m not motivated enough to pass the classes that I have trouble with. In order to be in college, I want to care about it and since I don’t, I’m taking a break.
Good for you, but please go back and get education when your ready, I 'd hate to see a good mind go to waste.