That’s simply not true. Yes, we try to hash out things behind the scenes for a number of reasons. One of them is: some people here NEVER EVER let go, and public disagreement amongst mods would only fuel those fires. We have disagreed, we have convinced a mod to reverse a decision. Public defense of mod action is usually (like in this case) when we’re unanimous… which, frankly, happens WAY more often than not.
Summary: we discuss behind the scenes to be able to reach consensus. Once we’ve reached consensus, we do not challenge it. We have had several occasions in the past of a mod saying, “I didn’t agree with that decision, but once there’s been thorough mod discussion and the decision is made (by massive majority), there’s no point in wasting time by further arguing.”