Player. 
Hey after almost 2 years single it’s about time I can get at least a date or two.
I was teasing. And maybe a little jealous. But I feel ya: I’ve been single for almost three years now. Meeting that one guy for coffee the other week was my first date since before I met my ex (five years ago), and now suddenly I’ve had three – with three different guys – in the past two weeks. Here’s hoping our mutual karma continues!
It was code. I’ve officially been friend-zoned by someone who thinks I am awesome but doesn’t have romantic feelings for me. Sigh. It might be three years before I meet someone I’m so attracted to again.
There have been those “what would your superpower be” threads here on the SDMB in the past. I’ve decided that the one I would want would be that I could inspire romantic feelings in those women that I had such feelings for. I have a feeling this would involve picking certain low probability future world time lines posited by the Many Worlds Interpretation of Quantum Mechanics, so as to not alter someone else’s free will, but so be it.
Vanity searches!
I’ve found more success on OkCupid and, when I’d posted last time, it hadn’t been my first time finding success, either. OkCupid is a goldmine. 
And the subsequent dates have gone swimmingly…so sticking with this one and seeing what happens
I hope none of them are lurking here, but I have a date tonight and two on Wednesday. There’s a fourth I thought, but now can’t remember when or where!
I know online dating is full of flakes, but today I got a message on OkC and two hours later when I checked it out, she had already deleted/disabled her account. I know what time she sent the message because I get email alerts about new messages on OkC and I saw my email first before I went to OkC.
So, the guy who I had the really good first date with on Thursday? We met for coffee on Sunday morning. 
We already had plans to see each other this Friday night, but I was going to a morning showing of John Carter near his place on Sunday and I thought I’d see if he might be up for meeting me beforehand. It was a little on the early side for both of us, especially given the time change, but we managed to pass a very pleasant hour together. Yesterday we firmed up our Friday night plans via email (he’s coming to my place, where we’ll order a pizza and watch a movie), and I expect that we’ll continue to write to each other about random stuff this week. There is definitely potential here…if we get through this next date without major incident, I might just be off the market for a little while.
Is it Friday yet?!?
Ugh…sorry.
Huzzah!!
Player.
Was it a “real” message – like, it seemed as though she had read your profile – or was it more of a form message?
It definitely referred to something specific in my profile.
Ok, that’s just weird…
Got a message at the end of last week from someone. She’d seen me in her visitors list. She’s a bit far away, but travels up this way every now and then. But she seemed quite nice, and we traded messages back-and-forth for a few days. Then, a couple days ago, nothing.
I seem to have discovered several new failure modes for this in the last couple weeks.
Here’s an interesting article that argues even with the fancy algorithms and matching engines online dating sites are no better (or worse) than trying to meet people at the bar.
Ugh…still nothing?
I don’t think that will come as news to anyone who has used an online dating site.
OkC is the only dating site I’ve used. Many of the criticisms mentioned in that article don’t apply, I think. The article mentions religion and sexual compatibility as important and OkC has religion and sex as subcategories, for example. OkC differentiates between compatibility and similarity( match and friend %, respectively.) Of course compatibility doesn’t equal chemistry.
The problems with OkC’s percentages are that people don’t know what they want or don’t know how to answer the questions properly, people don’t take the questions seriously or don’t answer honestly, or don’t answer enough questions(the more info you give the algorithm, the more accurate the results, IMHO.) But the beauty of OkC is you don’t have to take their percentage blindly, you can see the answers to the questions that determine why OkC says you’d be a good match or not.
In my admittedly limited experience, OkC’s numbers track better than randomly approaching people at a bar with how well I’ll get along with someone. YMMV.
Not a (digital) peep.
It’s been remarkably quiet here too. I think everyone using online dating sites are more interested in enjoying the warm weather this week though, than meeting new people through their computers.
With regards to OkCupid’s percent system, I think it can be helpful. If a girl and I have a very low match percentage she’s very likely to be a party girl or deeply religious, for example.
OKC filters for similar attitudes about sex, but I thought the article was talking about the actual physical act.
I think OKC and bars highlight two different aspects of dating: personalities and chemistry. “Meeting” someone on OKC makes chemistry the big question, while meeting someone at a bar makes personality the big question. Two equally important sides of the same coin, therefore I don’t believe that one or the other is a better predictor of overall romantic compatibility.
Meh.
Could be…but spring fever should eventually start working in your favor.
Oh, the percentage system is definitely helpful, for exactly that reason. I’m just saying that when it comes to long-term relationship potential, it’s not really any better/worse than meeting someone in a bar.
So, one of the people I met on SoulGeek has now said she never wants to talk to me again. I gotta admit, it’s that blatant, harsh level of rejection that makes me nervous to move forward. (In the interest of disclosure; I made a joke in poor taste, and, even after apologizing for it, it was apparently too much.)