Ask and ye shall receive (might only show one picture if you’re not logged in, but they’re the same as on OKC).
Those on OKC might be interested in this thread on Reddit. It’s about how much you can learn by looking at the page source at OKC.
Ah, guilt and nagging: the twin cornerstones of of any cherished relationship! If she has successfully managed to sink her talons into some poor sap, more power to her. Plenty of guys figure that if they cast the net wide enough and message as many people as possible for sex, they might get a few takers. Out of all the people who unwittingly stumble onto her profile, there have got to be a few who are open to being berated into a relationship.
That number is, to a point, useless. I once (way back when I started using OKC) found my own profile and noticed it said that I reply ‘often’ when in fact I had never replied to anyone. Then I realized that I had been actively talking to one person (that I initiated). So even though I had never replied to anyone that tried to make contact with me, the fact that I was regularly sending out replies to emails (all to one person), it gave me a score of “often”.
Okay, so basic boring email didn’t even warrant a peek at my profile (that I know of, she could be browsing privately).
Anyone have any thoughts on a follow up?
I’m a bit curious as to what she’s expecting someone to email her with? I’m thinking of sending her another email along the lines of “Yes, I’d like to get to know you, tell me about yourself.”
Or I could go for the facebook route. We have mutual friend on facebook that I could use him as an ice breaker (and tell her that I ran across her profile that way, not that I went looking for it). But that seems a bit stalkerish.
Or, I could just wait until she finally fills out her profile and send her a proper email.
Or I could just let it go. If she writes back, great, if not, I’ll wait for the next one to come along.
I’ve mentioned many times in this thread that there’s always another one. Whatever ‘perfect’ is for you, there’s always another one. For me, ‘perfect’ comes along about once a month so I always hate seeing her slip through my fingers. It’s rare for me to email someone that isn’t ‘perfect’. So there’s a lot of downtime between emails. For various reasons I’m in a ‘refuse to settle’ phase of my life. I know, I know, what’s ‘perfect’ on paper may be horrible in person, but I don’t have much interest in emailing the people that don’t seem right for me on paper, hoping that IRL I get lucky in that “less then perfect” turns into an ‘opposites attract’/‘we balance each other’ relationship.
Robot Arm, the story about the Sox is great. This profile seems irreverent without being always-on funny. I really liked the OKC profile, but this one is probably more palatable to more people. This one seems to incorporate more of your interests, IMO.
Have to tell you what I told Edward which is…up your older age range, man! Some women out there are crazy full of energy and look 10+ years younger. If they’re in shape and don’t smoke and don’t wrinkle (women in my family wrinkle in their 70’s) a younger man makes a lot more sense. I’d up it to 50 minimum, preferably 55. I mean, women’s lifespans are 8-10 years more than men’s are anyways. Then again, my dad had my youngest brother at 50 (mom was 40), so being with someone younger does leave open the possibility of having kids (of your own) wide open.
Also, have you considered upping the requirements on what you’re seeking to a college degree? Future MIL came from a working class background and was firmly proclaiming how little a degree mattered to her…till she started getting messages and perusing pages of guys without degrees. Seemed the small family-owned business owners and contractors were in short supply, if that makes sense. I don’t know if you’d be ruling out female versions of Mark Zukerberg and Bill Gates and the like, though.
Joey…the facebook idea is mega stalkerish. I’d wait till she fills it out and send a full email.
Yeah, that’s kinda the plan. I felt weird enough just looking at her facebook ‘likes’ to get a few ideas on what to email her about.
Well, I figured my partner should be younger to compensate for my own immaturity and lack of worldliness. (And I filled out that part of the profile several years ago and never bothered to change it, until now.)
From a purely pragmatic point of view, it doesn’t seem like I should be eliminating any potential candidates. You’re right that I can’ see myself with someone who’s not curious and engaged with the world on some intellectual level, but that doesn’t always mean college. If someone was four credits short of graduating, took a lucrative offer to do some modeling in Europe, then worked at restoring renaissance frescoes in Italy before becoming a helicopter pilot tagging endangered species in Africa, who am I to look down on that?
If this will allow someone to waive the college degree requirement, you should probably mention it in your profile. I mean, by not mentioning it, you might be excluding a lot of potential mates.
So either a pair of twins decided to get identical tattoos, or there’s something fishy about these profiles…
I came across a pair of profiles written in completely different styles, but they have the same girl in the pictures. Not the same exact pictures, mind you, but she has clearly visible and identifiable tattoos, and the same room. My initial reaction would be that both profiles are fake and the photos are stolen from some random facebook account or maybe a cam site, but they aren’t going about it very intelligently if that is the case: both profiles are from the same city, and have similar enough interests that I’m a high match with both of them-- you’d think they’d make them different to snare a wider variety of men. Though I suppose they could both be calibrated to attract creepy internet losers, which is bad news for me, I guess…
I’m still inclined to think both are fake, but the other possibilities I can think of, in descending order of likelihood are:
- She has a real profile, and set up a sock one for whatever reason.
- One is real, and the other is a fake using her stolen pictures to either embarrass her, or just because she’s hot and it will get views.
- Twins, Basil, twins!
I guess I’d feel like the right thing to do would be to let the person know in case her pictures are being used without her permission, but I’m not really sure which one would be the fake if I had to choose. Also, some guy gave both of them awards, and like I said, they’re in the same city-- surely someone has noticed this before? I could pm the account names if anyone wants to judge for themselves.
PM me, I’ll take a look.
Ok, I glanced though the summaries (somewhat quickly) and here’s what I came up with.
I first looked at both sets of pictures. I honestly wouldn’t have noticed the tattoo being the same, what I would have noticed is the shitty boob job in both profiles.
I read the anach*** profile first. After noticing the boob job, it made this sentence stand out “I am seriously involved in the feminist movement and simply refuse to wear a bra under any circumstances, that particular article of clothing representing the oppressed women of the world.” Later on, she said “I could never do with out my peekaboo bra” and “on a typical friday night I’m injecting silicon into my bra cups”
Then I read bookg***, in her “I’m really good at” section, she said “making lame dating profiles on okstupid”
So, IMHO, bookg*** is her ‘real’ profile, and anach*** is just her messing around. You’ll notice that bookg*** is a ‘serious’ dating profile, which anach*** is mostly made up of jokes.
So there ya go. If you want to message her, send it to bookg***.
Maybe. I think that the anach profile, even though it is all jokes, comes off as better written and, well, a little more intelligent than book, which makes me suspect it may be written by a different person. But she may have just spent more time on it-- I think my OKC profile is better written than anything I’ve ever said on the Dope, because I can go back and edit it whenever the mood strikes.
I’ve also seen plenty of profiles that were written completely tongue in cheek; I think it gives the girls a bit of deniability about the whole online dating stigma thing.
Maybe book is the fake sulky counterpart to the irreverent anach, and there’s a third, real one out there!
ETA: If I don’t suspect stolen images, I don’t see myself messaging either of them.
Well, this is an interesting development-- I logged back on to find that the serious profile had added me to her favorites. Guess I’ll just flat out ask what’s up.
If you’re a Doper and did it because you found this thread, I’m sorry for talking about you.
Did you know that there actually is an OKStupid? And I’ve recently discovered Date Wrecks, in case it hasn’t already been mentioned upthread.
How many photos are too many? Somehow, I managed to accumulate nine, of which I would say about five are superfluous, but that MyBestFace thing is no help in deciding, and people seem to respond best to the worst ones. I think my main photo makes me look like a smug douche with an exceptionally punchable face, but that’s the one that everyone says is my best.
Also, the written portions are getting pretty long winded, as I tend to add items without ever editing. When I come back to Texas, I’ll at least get rid of all the Alaska stuff, so that should prune it back a bit, though.
Anyone wanna take a look?
I know what you mean. Not an insult!
Someone in another thread posted that there have been surveys about what women think men are attracted to compared to what men say they’re attracted to and the women are way off. I think it’s the same in reverse. The photos of myself that I think are the best tend to get low ratings whereas my least favorite ones get picked. So unless there’s a mass conspiracy to trick us into putting up punchable pictures, I think we’re just completely incapable of judging ourselves accurately and should just continue putting up what women seem to like the most.
I’m old enough to be your mother so not in your demographic, but I love your profile and wouldn’t change anything. It’s funny and honest from the first line, and you seem intelligent and interesting–and cute picture!
Okay, quick question.
Emailed a girl, got a very nice reply. I replied back. She didn’t sign back on for a week or two. She looked at my profile at that time, but didn’t reply. A week or so after that, per the advice I received here, I sent her an email along the lines of “you seem busy wanna meet”. She hasn’t been online for about two weeks. She showed back up a few days ago, uploaded some new pictures (from that I infer that she’s still on the market) and looked at my profile. So, that could mean A)She’s on the fence about me and keeps looking at my profile to make a decision B)She saw me in her “Who’s viewed me” list since I do check her profile from time to time to see if she been on, and didn’t remember or didn’t recognize me and clicked on my profile to see who I was or C)errr I don’t remember what my third thought was, but it doesn’t really matter. The question is, do I send her an “I’m still interested” email or do I leave it alone, assume she’s not interested and wait for to see if she emails me?
Aaaand another complaint/annoyance. I put a line at the bottom of my profile, it says “Don’t wink, send an email” I think I’ve been winked at more times since I put that in. No doubt confirmation bias, but c’mon people did you even read my profile?
Just got a very short email from someone that said she was sending it because she was new to match and couldn’t figure out how to wink. I was still debating sending her an email, if I do, I guess I have an ice breaker now since I can start out with “That’s okay, I prefer emails anyways…”
As long as you don’t think I’m suffering from elephantiasis of the profile, I guess I’ll just stay the course!
Joey P, if you do message that girl back, “That’s okay, I prefer emails anyways…” is pretty good icebreaker-- as long as you don’t follow it up with a tirade against winks.
Oh, btw, you called it on the one I was talking about a few posts ago. We exchanged a couple of messages, and then both profiles disappeared. I wonder if they have some rule about that. Or she may have blocked me. When someone blocks you, are you unable to look at their profile and it doesn’t appear for you, or can you just not contact them? My friend wants to know.