I’m on the fence about whether I like her profile enough to want to message her. I figure it is her way of getting my attention, but she recently changed her profile pic, so it’s possible she thought I wouldn’t recognize her this time.
I got another visitor last night. She was only a 59% match. I woke up and checked my visitors again, now she’s an 85% match. She must be new and answering a lot of questions. I checked out her profile, and the first figure seems more accurate.
I have a bit of a conundrum.
I was browsing around OKCupid last night and found someone I would very much like to contact; good profile, wicked cute, and a 94% match/1% enemy.
The problem is I’m on the opposite coast right now, and likely will be for another couple months. And even then I don’t know if I’ll be in the right frame of mind to be a good companion for a little while.
So do I contact her now and hope an in-person meeting can wait for a while, or do I hope such a catch doesn’t get scooped up in the meantime? I saved her to my favorites already (and allowed her to know it) and she checked out my profile today.
Between now and the time you move, she may find her self in and out of several short term relationships. So, no, don’t say a thing. There’s no reason for her to have to ‘wait’ for you to get there and be ‘ready’ to date her. I’d suggest you wait until the timing is right and then contact her if she’s still available.
But since you effectively contacted her anyways, you need to send her an email and let her know that you’ll be moving to her city in a few months and she caught you eye (or something along that line, not that you’re randomly saving people that live thousands of miles away).
Buried in the middle of a woman’s favorite movies I read, she listed a certain movie and in parentheses she added that if you don’t absolutely love that particular movie, to stop reading. I kept reading since it’s a favorite of mine, too. It was The Princess Bride, FTR.
Had a lunch date today with a woman whose pictures were (I would say) about 10 years old, if my guess is correct. Some may have even been older than that. I kind of had a feeling that would be the case. Some of her pictures looked much too young for 38. I have been on dates where the pictures weren’t a perfect representation, but this is the first where I thought the person looked significantlyolder in person.
Oh well, still had a fantastic conversation, and I’ll probably throw the ‘friends’ thing out there.
Could have talked longer, but I have a date for drinks on the patio this afternoon 
Helluva Sunday!
Whether or not to use the Oxford (a.k.a. serial) comma is entirely a matter of which style you’re using. As long as it’s done consistently, it doesn’t matter which form you use; both are equally correct. (However, I’ll happily get into an argument and do my best to prove why the Oxford comma is *infinitely *superior.)
That’s 100% wrong, no matter what the meaning of the sentence was.
Garage of a boss = boss’s
Garage of two or more bosses = bosses’
And she’s already indicated that it was the latter, so she was right all along.
You’d be surprised what you can adjust to when you’re forced to use it. I was also raised with double spaces between sentences, but then my jobs after college all used one space–and a significant or entire part of those jobs has been to enforce the companies’ style guides. The biggest benefit to using one space versus two is that you can do a global find/replace to ensure that everything is consistent.
Nope, it’s just a dialect you’re not familiar with. In some parts of the U.S., “anymore” can be used to mean “these days.” Perfectly grammatical for speakers of those dialects.
Clearly, you don’t spend enough time in the Pit.
Personally, I’d give similar advice, but I’d couch it somewhat differently. When I see a picture in a guy’s profile with a woman hanging off him, I don’t get jealous; I think the guy is so insecure that he feels the need to prove that women like him.
Message her, start talking, tell her your timeline for when you’re moving to her area. No guarantees that she’ll stay single, but at least now if she’s as interested in you, she’ll work harder to keep things from getting serious with anyone else until you’ve had a chance to meet.
“I’d like to thank my parents, God and Ayn Rand.”
I’m not exactly moving to her area. I already live there; I’ve been on the opposite coast for several months looking after a sick relative. Don’t know if that makes a difference.
No, it doesn’t make a difference. Let her know about your situation. Let her know you’re interested if she’s still single when you get back.
It looks like OKC recalibrated their match scores. I had no 99% matches locally and two in my favorites last night. Now I have five in my favorites and many locally. 99% match rate doesn’t mean what it used to. It seems like OKC does this periodically. Why? I wonder if this is more accurate.
Has anyone tried eHarmony after getting divorced? I did their stuff a few months ago, went through all the questions, and because I was only separated they said no. I’m getting my divorce finalized this week so I went back to try and change that in the profile. Well there’s no way to actually do that so I emailed them. I got an email back saying
Really, you need all of that? I’m not even sure if there will be a judge there, and it normally takes a few days for the divorce so I’m not going to know that either unless I actually go to the courthouse and look it up. Seems like way too much work for me with little gain. I don’t think I’ll actually be doing it. I should just use a different email and see what happens.
I’m letting my Match profile go as well. I’ve had all of one date on it in the last year, and about 3-4 emails back out of probably 100 or more.
Oh, and is there a definition of ‘curvy’? I’ve seen all sorts of women say they are curvy, with half of them having big breasts but otherwise skinny, or larger women. Some of these women only have face pictures so it’s hard to really tell.
I did the same thing you did…and then set up an account with a new email address, worked just fine. As for EH though, I really didn’t care for the service. I won’t get into the style of communication as some people really like that, I just didn’t like the fact that you only get, on average, two people a day to communicate with. After 4 months, I had a grand total of 80 females of which I could send a message to, at least half of them had no pictures and/or blank profiles which means they were more then likely accounts set up just to look around. Of the remaining 40 or so, I’d wager that at least half of those weren’t active anymore. With EH, if someone looks at your profile or sends you a request for communication all you see is their user name, you HAVE to look at their profile to see anything about them (that means their pictures, their profile, the questions they sent you etc), so if I send someone a request for communication and they don’t check out my profile, I have to assume it’s a dead account. Unlike Match or OKC where you can see the email and profile picture without actually going to their page.
My experience with eHarmony was as such; Thirty fucking minutes of doing their questionnaires only to be told “Sorry, we don’t know what to do with you GOOD LUCK” without even a half-assed attempt at trying to bilk me out of $60 a month. That’s outrageous they asked you for the judge, county and state of your divorce proceedings. It’s none of their fucking business! I’m fairly certain eHarmony is for Christian people who’s lives are oh-so-fucking-perfect but for some reason they forgot they need to find a mate.
Another dissatisfied E-H user here. Even when successful, they hook you up with women all across the country, no way to search by location, and what am I going to do with a woman who lives in Oregon? Move there? Hook up in a motel in Wisconsin twice a year? Convince her to move to NYC?
eHarmoney just sent me a survey so I think I’ll tell them what I think about them asking for the judge and such.
Funny that I know, with you guys now, six people who have used them, four of them had horrible experiences, the other two go married. I don’t think I’ll be going with them.
Same dif, dude. The point is you are *currently *living elsewhere, but will at some definite-and-reasonably-near future point be back in her area. (Hurr.) Advice remains the same: tell her you’re interested and when you’re going to be back.
Or you answered more questions, or your matches answered more questions.
Wait… If you would have lied about your marital status initially, you could have had a profile just fine, but since you told the truth about being separated, you now have to prove that the divorce is being finalized? That is a *terrible *system.
Nope. Could mean big tits/hips with relatively normal proportions for everything else. Could mean just big tits or just big hips. Could mean fat all over but is self-conscious about it.
I’ll rent you Couch Island in my living room as long as you promise to clean up after yourself.
Message sent (and this was a tricky one). Fingers crossed.
Sorry, but you’re not as special anymore. You were one my rare 99% matches in my favorites before, but now everyone and their mom is too. They definitely changed their formula. Answering three questions last night would not give me pages and pages of 99% matches in my city when before I had none. Other people are noticing it too.
Bite your tongue.
Don’t get me wrong. SFG is still fucking awesome, as I said upthread; she has to be to match me 99% because I am fucking awesome, too. Especially as she was a 99er before they changed their formula. She’s just not uniquely fucking awesome as before.
Darth Sensitive is also fucking awesome because he is a 99% match to me also, but he’s only a 99er under the new formula.
Looks like Guns and I are now 83% where I think we were 78% before…something below 80. I probably wouldn’t have noticed the difference if it wasn’t pointed out to me here, but going back I noticed that some of the people I’ve been interested in just took a 3 or 4% jump…I don’t really pay attention to the match% though.