This was partly inspired by this thread, but it’s something that’s bothered me for a very long time. Why is it that every time a child dies/gets hurt, people have a knee-jerk reaction and yell at the parents?
Example: A very close friend of the family lost his daughter when she was 8. She was playing and he brought her into the driveway while the garbage truck came. He ran inside to get her an apple. The garbage truck, which had a malfunctioning camera, pulled into the yard, and she tripped on her bike trying to get away and was run over and killed. A horrible accident, right? Everyone involved, including the driver, was devastated.
Well, as soon as the papers printed the story, people had to find someone to blame for the accident, and The Family Friend was a great target. They would harrass him at work. They would call him on the phone and ask him why he wasn’t watching her more closely. They blamed him for her death. Complete strangers who only knew of the story through the news would tell him he was a horrible parent.
He lost his marriage, his house and job, and his family was torn apart by her death and never recovered. He died a couple of years ago from alcohol and drug abuse. He never stopped blaming himself and he couldn’t get over the guilt. That had more to do with the death than with the comments, but the comments haunted him and his family for years and made sure they had a hard time moving on.
I understand that people have to have something or someone to blame for death, but you know what? Accidents happen. People die. Your child could just as easily die, regardless of your parenting skills. It’s pretty easy to place blame, but unless that parent actually caused the death you should probably give them the benefit of the doubt. Especially if the child is old enough to supervise themselves.
In other words, think before you fucking speak.
This does not go for your average “Parent dropped child on head, told child to jump”, etc. This is for all of those “Why wasn’t the parent watching them?”