I putting this in the based based mostly on my anger quotient. It may not spark controversey, but my rarely-roused ire is too great to put it anyplace else right now.
Yesterday the 12-yr. old son of a friend–a single, working mom–fell off his bike and broke his arm (badly) in two places. It was the first day off school; he was in a supervised group in a public park, and the accident was unavoidable: he swerved to avoid someone darting across his path and went over the handlebars.
The brave kid never shed a tear and joked in the ambulance that the moms looked like a commercial for cell phones; they called for help, got out first aid kits, etc.
The cops tried to call his mom, who was at work. She wasn’t right at a phone, being away helping a customer. She got the news w/in a few minutes and took off for the hospital.
When she got there, one of the other moms told her that the cop had been ranting about “neglectful mothers”; when she asked about her son, he said, “oh, you mean the 10 yr.old?” And then he proceeded to dress her down about neglecting her son and “dumping” him at a tender age.
Okay, I’m ranting. This was one individual. The other “park mom” blistered his ears that the boy was supervised and well old enough to ride his bike on the first day off school.
But my friend is a shaken mess. The boy will be operated on tomorrow, mom and son are in anguish, and she’s worried that she’ll be reported to Protective Services. She wasn’t hanging around a bar; she was working. He’s an active 12 yr old boy, and responsible adults were around.
But she was instantly cast as The Villain. Forget the fact that she pays the bills, earns the medical benefits and does it with no help. She rearing a delightful, polite, grounded kid. But somehow she’s still The Villain.
This makes me soooo angry. Each situation is unique, but when the HELL did we get so ugly toward decent, working people who do their damndest to raise kids?
Seething,
Veb