I’m hoping for some inspirational stories here. I don’t do all that well without some kind of imposed structure on my life, and that’s exactly what I don’t have right now. On paper, my life should be perfect, in the sense that I theoretically have the time to do many of the things I want to do. I work a part-time, very flexible job, and in my off-time I manage the household and work on getting my fiction published. I don’t even have any kids to complicate my life.
Because of epilepsy, I currently am not able to drive, so I do a lot of work from home (writing grants.) I’ve been dealing with severe fatigue/brain fog due to anticonvulsants but I’m transitioning to a new med now so I’m optimistic that will help. My boss told me she doesn’t give a shit when I show up in the office or how much I work from home, as long as I communicate and get the work done. That’s good because it costs me $50 round trip to Uber to work. I should be dancing in the streets to have so much freedom, but I find my life so much harder to manage that way. I push off my work until the weekend and then my weekend is extra stressful.
I didn’t realize how little structure and routine I had built into my life until I started this free mini-program called Tiny Habits, designed by a behavioral psychologist. The gist is you take habits you want to form and attach small, easy actions to already established habits, which he calls ‘‘anchor habits.’’ Those are things you already do regularly.
That’s when I realized I have no goddamn anchor habits! Outside of taking my meds at 9am and 9pm, I’ve got nothing. I don’t even think I eat breakfast consistently. My mood has been relatively stable for a change, but I feel like I’m never getting enough work done. I left Facebook, thinking it would help with my discipline, and while I don’t regret the change it hasn’t made much difference in my productivity.
Is there anyone here who has managed to self-impose structure on a too-flexible lifestyle? Please give me your tips.