Lipstick is for teenagers … real women use Sharpies. 
I think that most kids 14 or over have already heard worse…
What Mockingbird said. Honestly, think about it.
Either fortunately or unfortunately, teen behaviour will probably be pretty different 8 years from now … I think it’s good to try and be aware of what’s going on now, but there’s not much point in worrying until it’s time for your daughter to be facing her teen-hood. 
Well who can blame the kids for doing the oral sex when apparently the only legal penalty for an oral sex gangbang is an apology and probation, as the result of the Milton Academy scandal indicates?
I think that my answer for whether or not I would let a female blow me would be - It would depend. This would have to be a person that doesn’t expect sex from me, and I’d probably have to be desperate.
That said, they’d have to not wear lipstick, and not do that “look at me, I’m a naughty little dog” look that females always give in porn.
Well duh. You understood my drift.
I don’t think teens should do things they’re not prepared for but I do think it’s helpful for them to imagine the best and worst of sex before they get into the action. That’s why I don’t freak out about books and gossip and even those outrageous bragging lies that teens like to tell about their big sex experiences. I did it as a teen. I think imagining things and thinking about things helps them to cope.
To be really serious I think that kids can read about or talk about things in a worldy way before they are ready to act because it mentally prepares them and helps them decide what attitude they will take. I’m in that camp that they are better to imagine all these scenarios and their consequences before they jump into acting. To be honest, the exposure I had to porn and crazy rumours as a teen did more to scare me away from sex than anything else. When I think of blowing a bunch of guys even as an adult I get pretty nervous. Goodness knows I’ve thought it through carefully and slowly (and then fast) very many times! But that’s how I know I probably shouldn’t go ahead and get the invites printed. It’s just part of life to go farther in your head.
The thing that bothers me is that sometimes I think young girls believe they aren’t worth as much if they aren’t sexy. When I was a teen in the 80s you didn’t need to be sexy at all. You only needed to be a snob with the right shoes. That sucked, but pining for more money seems better than pinining to get the chance to be sexy. At least if you pine for material things it might inspire you to become an engineer or a doctor or something positive. Pining to look like Paris Hilton will only get you hooked on self-tanners. I worry about the oversexing of teens in that way. Sometimes it seems like they are being trained that the only way to be important is to be sexy. That seems backwards.
Are you missing the meaning of “gay”. I know that everytime a man has offered (or begged) to give me a blowjob, I always turn it down. Because the act does not interest me, and it’s just disgusting to me. It’s not something I have any desire whatsoever to do. No matter how drunk I am or how horny I am. It’s not natural for a heterosexual to enjoy a blowjob from another man. It’s not in his programming, it’s like wanting to fuck a sheep or something.
So… why would you think the reverse would not be true for a homosexual? I’m not gay, but I assume that someone who was would consider a blowjob from a female equally disgusting and unnatural.
These parties are true, or at least I attended some in my “youth” as early as 7th grade (I am 27). No lipstick, though. I was kinda like those wife swapping parties you see on t.v.
Kids just do these things. They drink, they have sex, and smoke pot. Many parents think “not my kid!” Sorry. Your kid.
Okay, maybe not *your *kid. But it is the reality of many many teens now. Probably best to assume it *could * be though. “Oh my goodness, not in Middle America. Not in affluent Rockdale County!” Yes, there, too. Blowjobs are not just for wannabe gangbangers anymore.
I perused a book recently that I confiscated from a kid in my class. The rest of the class was learning about area and volume and she was learning about the wanton lusts of teenage girls. I have no idea how that book managed to slip by the censors at the school library, but it made me blush. Called “What My Mother Does Not Know.”
When I was a kid we had the controversy over “Hello, God. It’s Me Margaret” and that other one about the girl and her older boyfriend ("Dennie?). Now they are basically handing out instruction manuals in the form of free verse poetry novels. I got to thinking how much of a hypocrite I was, being shocked and awed, considering the things I did at my age.
Still, I really doubt that the books do more than titillate young girls, not teach them to act. I did not need a book. Come to think of it, these books are mostly aimed at young girls. The boys already have Playboy. What does that say?
Um, it is late. I am not sure where this was going. Probably a mess of contradictions. Glean what you will.
I doubt they’d find it disgusting. Just unappealing, and they probably wouldn’t be easily stimulated.
But then, I wouldn’t know, really.
Based on the excerpt, it appears that there will be a (somewhat closeted) gay couple at the party.
I think the book itself will go through the usual cycle of being read in defiance, forgotten six months later, and passed down to a younger girl two years after that.
The only thing that worries me is that one of the guys is named Ash. That’s the name of the male lead in my story, and I thought it was pretty distinctive; the only other fictional Ash I can think of is the Evil Dead/Army of Darkness guy. If my Ash ends up associated with this tripe, I will just, like, totally die.
Ash is also the name of the lead in Pokemon, possibly a more recent ref. for young kids
Well, okay then!
Oh great! The Furry!
Looks like your kid is screwed!
Um–I get the meaning of “gay”.
Jeesh-where did the humor in this thread go?
'twas idle speculation on my part–that and the knowledge that alot of experimentation can happen in adolescence–home, hetero, or bi. I was asking a general question, not anyone specifically.
Just a question–not a political statement.
Amd most certainly not a a disparagement.
As to the difficulties involved with raising teens, male and female. My advice is to talk about sex now–answer questions etc. Get comfortable with talking about these kinds of issues now (age appropriate of course) so that that 5 y/o daughter feels like she can come to you and ask questions. Just my two cents.