I read a news article many years ago about a first date that ended with the woman attacking the man with a knife while chanting “Redrum! Redrum!” because she wanted to resurrect Jack the Ripper (and was a fan of The Shining, I guess). The outright murderous crazies are always going to have the rest of us beat as bad dating material.
I recently learned from my current GF that it’s now normal women’s practice to take a joint selfie of whoever you’re going out with very early in the meeting and quickly send that to a trusted friend. So if you don’t come back alive the cops have somebody to visit.
I learned all this in the context of her casually mentioning that she had done this to me the first time too. Which rocked me back probably more than it should have.
I couldn’t rationally be angry but it felt a lot like an insult.
Hey, I’ve got an idea! Instead, how about texting him, “I’ve changed my mind and am cancelling the date.” Freaking psycho.
I can empathize with that feeling of it being an insult but I hope that will wear off and you can come to bask in the warmth of the trust she obviously has in you that she revealed that to you-that is to be treasured, earning that kind of trust.
Trust that is well deserved of course. She could have just asked one of us about you but didn’t have a cell number for any Dopers.
My story happened to a female friend and ex-girlfriend (from almost 40 years ago) of mine a few years ago: she had met a man online dating and after some time arranged a date at his house which was a few hundreds kilometers to drive to. They met there, he had a nice house, they talked well, the vibes were good, so it was a beautiful evening and she spent the night with him.
The guy was a breeder of Great Danes, and one of his dogs had puppies, a few weeks old. So when they were sitting at the breakfast table the morning after, one of the puppies approached the guy to beg for food, and in a surreal act the guy punched his fist right into the puppy’s face. My friend loves animals, and because the punch came out of nowhere and ran against everything she had seen in the guy, she was of course totally shocked and also worried for herself. I don’t know how, but she managed to quickly gather her things, get in her car and drive home. Of course she never had any contact with that guy again.
We’re way past that point now. In the good way.
I’m not upset by it, just sad that, as with so much else in life, the 1% assholes pollute, vandalize, or destroy absolutely everything the other 99% need to work with to get by. The reason the topic came up was her discussing one of her friends I’d met a couple months ago who had recently texted my GF her first date murder-evidence joint selfie.
I read a good one on a random Reddit last night. A woman was lesbian but her mother refused to believe it and told the daughter she had just not met the “right guy” so far. So she kept setting her up with blind dates with men. One day the mother set the daughter up with a nice woman. She lied.
It was a much older man, 40 or 45 when the daughter was 25. He immediately began sitting close, touching her arm, etc. The daughter explained the situation but the guy kept going and finally blurted, “I think money will help” and put $50 on the table and tried to kiss her. At that point she left immediately. Before she even got home she was getting messages from the bad date and her mom (mom had given out her phone number) accusing her of being too sensitive, not giving him a fair chance, etc. The daughter also felt the guy had bribed the mom to set him up.
I’m not sure whether that belongs in the “worst date” thread or the “worst parent” thread*.
* Assuming we have one; I don’t recall one.
IMO, not either/or, could easily be “both”.
Kinda like the overlap between the Omnibus Stupid MF thread and the Omnibus Evil MF thread.
If that happens with me, I wonder if the woman would be insulted if I took a joint selfie with her, too.
Save effort; have her text you the pic she took. Then forward that to your wingman at home. Which also leaves a timestamped text trail on your phone account for the cops to follow to her phone once you turn up dead.
Both. Once the guy kept pushing after her total disinterest was clear he got to bear the blame as well. Especially given how heavy handed and crude he was.
If somehow we audience members magically knew that Mom had told him the daughter was a hooker would that change your POV about him, her, or Mom?
Not really, except for the mother. I’ve nothing against prostitutes, “no means no” applies for them like anyone else. But misrepresenting someone as one is bad given how many people do despise prostitutes, she’d be putting her daughter in danger of assault or murder.